Yep I think I focus too much on all the horrible things about human nature and not the good things it's a bit like watching the news it's always the depressing stuff you hear about and not all the good stuff that people do. Just need to remind myself that there is good everywhere and thanks to you all for reminding me how nice you all are

Wow, thanks, I never thought of it like that.  Yep I am pretty much stuck in that field and am feeling lost I've lost my path and wish I knew where I am heading.   I have invited Alex's and Daniel's school friends round to tea, which is something I haven't done in a while and have been avoiding doing (don't know why, I never used to be unsociable) but it was ok and I was pleased that I did it in the end. 

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Okay, now, try to look at tomorrow differently.

You're not lost. You know where you are at this particular moment in time and space and you know where you have been. You're only lost if you have no idea where you are at the moment (and I'm guessing as you read this you're probably at home sitting at your computer just incase you're really not sure LOL).

Instead of thinking you don't know what tomorrow will bring as a bad thing, think of it as a surprise present waiting for you to unwrap it and discover what is inside.

Life is an adventure. No one knows what is going to happen tomorrow, no matter how well planned everything might be. One little incident could change the whole scheme. Sometimes it's good, sometimes it's not, but ultimately, most of the time it's just different, and if you're no worse off, what does it matter if it's different?

That is where my problem lies I worry about tomorrows it's almost as if I prepare myself for the worst, stupid I know but it has got worse as I have got older.  In fact it was a lot worse than this there was one time I couldn't even step out of the front door, lol.  I know it's all in my head and I just need to take control just need to change the way I see things.

Thanks Lui

I could do with someone like you to keep digging my head out of the sand, lol.  I do remember being the kind of person who was always so positive and would solve every problem that ever dared to cross my path, but now I feel like a shell of my former self, sounds stupid I know, but coping with things now just seem all that harder than it did before and being able to see myself in a positive way is almost impossible.

Reckon if someone turned backed the clock a good 10 years that would do the trick, lol. 

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Thanks Rue

I hope I'm strong enough to change just so scared that if I have anything go wrong it will put me back into that little dark corner that I prefer to hide in, lol.  This councillor was so good she told me all the things I should do if things don't go the way I expect but it's one thing to know what to do but we all do what comes naturally and mine is to stick my head in the sand at least for a good week or more, lol.

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Thanks Lisa

That is exactly how I felt like someone had ripped away my security blanket and that was only after 5 sessions?? Coping on your own can be quite frightening especially if like me you tend to make a mess of it, lol. At least I still have you guys to help me through.

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No worries.I'm sure you will be absolutely fine and a more confident person for doing it.You are also not on your own because you have your minti buddies!!

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Hi Helen

I didn't realise how much I'd miss her she had picked up on things I thought I'd buried a long time ago.  She was just so good at giving me answers to questions I thought no one could answer. Oh well here I am again alone in my head just hope I can sort things out as well as she did, lol.

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Thanks Em

There are other councillors I could see but I'd have to start from scratch again and I would have to pay so think I'll get myself on the waiting list at the docs again reckon I'll ask for some CBT this time.

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Thanks Cath

That is exactly what my councillor suggested need to teach myself how to be kind to myself, lol.  Funny though I find it easier to be kind to others than to myself.  Have tried the retail therapy thing but it doesn't work that well with me because all I do is feel guilty for spending the money.  No hope for me, LOL.

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