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I am a 35 y.o. single gay male (though most people seem to think that I am not because I am quite straight acting). I have an older sister and an older brother. Being the youngest in the family has its problems. I have two Jack Russell’s who essentially are my children, though I have been in a gay relationship which has had two children.

I came out when I was about 19 years old, after having a major emotional breakdown. In fact I had two breakdowns over three years. It took me a while to recover from this - mixed in with a few broken hearts. I did manage to recover my life and did a lot of self help and self development to put my life back together functionally. My counselor called it ' differentiation of self from the family of origin' and after about a year of cognitive therapy life began to change for the better. I was glad that I came out because life would be very different if I did not. I had a girlfriend at the age of 16 and I am sure that we would have got married eventually.

My previous male partner, a school teacher, had two young girls from his previous marriage and I was Dad number 2. This relationship ended after three years because my partner carried with him baggage from his dysfunctional marriage and because he was coming out his children become victims to a selfish and childish egocentric attitude. It was time for HIM after 10 years of emotional abuse in his marriage, and so his kid’s needs were not a priority. I could not stand to see him destroy his children's emotional needs because of his behavior so I left the relationship. It is not wrong to be gay ...