I must be one of those rare people (rare is right!) that doesn't like money. Yes, we need it to pay the bills, the rent and buy food etc. We make ends meet. We are not extravagant people. Our modern day luxury is having the internet on. I find it invaluable (for research and keeping in contact) and would prefer it over the phone (definitely) tv (we have 2 but neither have reception, one is for DVD watching) and whatever gadget is cool these days.
Anyway I have never aspired to be rich. I didn't sacrifice a career to have my children. When I met and fall in love with my husband (to be, at the time) we agreed we wanted children and at least 5 of them. Its the most important thing to us. Yes we worry about paying the bills but the kids never go without. We don't drink, smoke, gamble or do drugs. Everything is about making our family life better.
When I became pregnant with my last child we were so happy. It happened a short while after a miscarriage that left me quite angry. Not about the miscarriage but with the medical system. So I think it confirmed for me a lot about myself as a mother. That I needed to take more responsibilty to trust my instincts wholeheartedly. To trust in man was foolish. And even though my faith in God was terrible I now see He was with me (things have always worked out for us - I find it amazing). I cry thinking about the times I went against my instincts.
At the same time I discovered I was pregnant, my husband lost his second job (would have helped pay for a bigger car.) and we had to move house. We moved twice while I was pregnant yet I still never really felt stressed about money or anything else for that matter.
Children have strong needs that do not require money. Committment to my family is the most important thing.
I have been rewarded with my children. The smiles, the laughs, the goodtimes. I have learnt so much from them. I have been rewarded with knowledge. I have become a more confident person. I do find it hard being so different (be so much easier to live in a bubble). I am not very mainstream in my thinking. I can think for myself. I like to see both sides before I have an opinion. There is opinion then there is informed opinion. I much prefer the latter. I think until you have experienced something you just can't understand it. I feel I am learning all the time. I would prefer to be the person I am now (improvements can still occur!) than be rich with money or possessions. Experiences and knowlege cannot be stolen from me. |