Dummies - I found with my children, who didn't want to lose the dummy at Xmas time i told them that Santa needed them for the baby reindeer so they could grow up to deliver presents.  It has seemed to work with my first two.  I did it at  Xmas when they were 2.  They asked for their dummy for about 2 nights and that was it.

Bottles - I took away the midday bottle first, just replacing it with with another juice, then the morning bottle.  They had the night bottle until they were about 3 and then I told them they were a big girl/boy now and going to kindaso they didn't need that bottle.  They accepted it within two or three nights.

Bed - When they started to try and climb out of the cot and could I then swapped them to a bed, I bought a side rail (only about $20) to stop them rolling out and they were fine.  They were both about 2. 

All I can say all kids are different, do whatever suits your kids best and doesn't cause them too much stress.  I had the health care nurse telling me off when they were one for stilling having a bottle and a dummy.  I take on advice from people but if it distresses my little ones too much it's not worth it.  They won't be at school sitting at the table in a nappy with a bottle and a dummy, so don't stress.

Most of all ENJOY them!!

The fact that you are thinking and planning on the best way to do everything for Olivia is just wonderful - The method I used for Alina was wrapping her bottles up and giving them to santa claus for his christmas present since he will bring lots of great things for her in return - this worked a treat - And good timing for you - its almost christmas! :)

I suppose you need to work out what she is using the bottles for - because if she really wants the milk from them she will drink them from a sippy cup - whereas if they are helping her to go to sleep - you may need to work on that and seperate her association with the bottle and going to bed before you take them away. Maybe its her comfort and just what you are both used to - be ready for a little crankyness - Alina was 18months when we got rid of her bottles and she was ready!!

I can't help with the dummys!! Alina never liked them! She just would spit them out!

Good luck! :)

HAve a great day! and chin up - you are a great mummy! well done!

I agree with what everyone else has written, but the hardest thing is hanging in there and making it happen as a reality.  When a child cries enough it is hard to not give in at some point.  But you know in your heart that it will pay off, and quicker, if you are strong.  So good luck.  I certainly support the idea of one thing at a time, though it sounds like the bed is coming regardless.  I know that i have put E through a lot sometimes and she has come through the other side with flying colours.  You know your child and the limitations.  It is ok to change your mind, but once a rule is made and introduced to the child, be consistent and stand strong.
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Maybe in lala land your a bad mum, but not here.  When we tried to ween my little brother off bottles it took ages. in fact, his little sister was off them about 2 weeks before him! in the end we just threw all the teets out and refused to give him anything but a sippy cup.

luckily, LIam is on the sippy cup now (just under nine months) he loves them so i thought why not ween him now!?  we also gave up the dummy about a month ago, and it was easy. at first it took a little bit of help from mum and dad to have naps and go to sleep, but now i dont even think he remembers why he liked them!

Beds can be tough, the idea i like is to have the big bed set up in the same room for a little while. and see mummy or daddy laying in it sometimes. then gradually let bub lay down and play in that bed with you or just normal things you do when you have bub with you in your room. then try to put bub in the big bed. i think it just makes the transition easier to see the old bed is still there for a week or so, then let her see you dismantle it.

just my ideas.

They pull at our heart stings when we think the dummy is the end of all things as we know it.

One day before my son was two I just said I cannot find any dummies I did not throw them out I just could not find one.  He was due for an afternoon sleep and he was fine with my explanation.  That night he slept fine with out it.

A friend said that she got her son to put them in the bin.  Next morning got up to see the bin being emptied by the rubbish truck and said good bye to them.

Only you will know what your daughter can cope with.  Plus yourself you don't want it to be a bad transition.

I've had wonderful advice from my GP to get rid of the bottle at 6 months and I did this with both my kids.  Once they can sip out of a cup you do it.  I heard that putting water in the bottle is best for teeth and for weening.  If that is what is on offer they will soon dislike the idea.  Or simply say small babies have bottles she is a big girl and she can sip out of a cup.  The novelty of a bottle will wear off.

Well I was a naughty mum I moved my daughter out of her cot at thirteen months due to moving.  I bought a railing that you can dismantle and take travelling.  She had fell out twice but now at 15 months she has not fallen out for a good few weeks now.  If the cost of one of those is two much simply put the old cot matteress on the floor so if she does fall out she will have a safe fall.

My son I started to put him on his big bed for afternoon sleeps so he grew accustomed to it then it was not a big move.  He finally said one day that he wanted to sleep in it for the night.

Good luck.  I would try to approach each one in due time.  Say the big bed then the bottle then the dummy.

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Sometimes it just takes a little longer to get rid ot the dummy,and the bottle.

You could also tell her she is a ''big'' girl  now, and only babies use the dummy and bottles, along with TheMentorMom comments.

I tried doing cold turkey with getting her off the bottle, stil having them put away in the house. I founf when I couln't handle the crying for it I gave in and gave it to her. So I wouls suggest not having any in the house so you don't give in either.

I know when took my daughter off the bottle we went to the dump and she threw it away. She wanted to become a''big girl''. So that's when we did the transition to a big bed. I bought her some new bedding of Barbie and she was so happy. We also bought her a new teddy and said that is what big girls sleep with.

Good Luck!!  Remember it will get better!

No way are you a bad mum... These are common questions... As the mentormom says, one a time less stress on you.... 

Sure they may not be happy when they figure out what is going on, but they will forget about years down the track. :)

You are not a bad mum!  Most parents struggle with the issues that you expressed concern about myself included.  Transitioning from pacifiers and bottles can be hard work.  Add moving to a new bed?  Whew, that's a lot of work.  Here's my suggestion:  work on them one at a time.  Doing all three at once would be a lot of change for such a little one.  Pick which one you want to work on first and put all your energy into that for the time being, eg, getting rid of the pacifier.  Once she has accepted that change and seems to be doing well, move on to the next. 

I've worked with many parents over the years who were working on getting rid of the pacifiers and most have reported that the only thing that worked was going cold turkey.  Most shared that when they tried a bedtime/naptime only, the child would find their binky around the house somewhere or in a moment of weakness one parent would give in to the child's demands and they would be back to zero.  I usually suggest to them to pick a weekend to target the behavior when both parents will be home and well rested, ie, no one has to get up and go to work the next day. 

I've also had parents tell me that giving the child's binkys to the stork worked.  They went around the house with their child and put all the binkies in a decorative bag and then placed the bag out in a tree to leave for the stork to give to all the new babies being born.  They told their child that the stork would leave them a surprise in the bag for sharing their binkies.  The next day, the parent and child would go out to the bag to find a small toy, book, bubbles, etc. in the bag from the stork.  Kind of like the tooth fairy?  When their child asked for their binky the parent would remind them that the stork took them and it was the end of the story. 

Will your little one drink milk from a sippy cup?  Preferably one with a straw?  Some parents will transition off the bottle with a sippy cup.  It worked with my kids although my daughter protested at first.  She learned quickly, however, that if she wanted something to drink it was no longer going to be in a bottle :)  Hey, maybe the bottles could go to the stork too....hmmmm.....

Sorry for such a lengthy response.  Best of luck with your efforts on this!  For the record, I don't think you're a bad mom :)