After months of Natalya waking up every hour to feed, sleeping in our bed at night, only sleeping during the day while I am holding her and sometimes insisting on being held all night I finally reached the point where I was desperate enough to try something similar to controlled crying.
Haydon has some time off work to recover from eye surgery so the day after his surgery after Natalya had insisted on being held all night (I sleep holding her but it is not a proper refreshing sleep, especially as she wakes every hour for a feed) we agreed I would get tough.
I fed her to sleep and then put her in her cot. When she cried I just held her hand and rubbed her chest and talked to her to let her know that I was there. She screamed and screamed because I wouldn't pick her up. Eventually I dragged her cot next to our bed and lay down with my hand and foot through the bar to make contact with her. Eventually she fell asleep. When she woke up an hour later I didn't pick her up. I held her hand and reassured her that I was there, she cried but after a bit went back to sleep and slept for four and a half hours! I went to sleep about half an hour after her so I had about a 4 hour chunk of sleep. The longest chunk of sleep I have had in longer than I want to admit to. When she woke up I fed her and put her back in her cot. She slept for another three hours.
I woke up that morning feeling amazing. Wow, sleep I had forgotten how good it could feel. Now she is even having day sleeps in her cot. The first day she had a day sleep of over 2 hours. Now her day sleeps are about 1 hour long but I don't have to hold her the whole time.
Most of my Minti-ing was done one handed while holding her while I fed her or held her while I slept. Guess I won't get much chance to Minti or surf  the net anymore. With her in her cot I will actually be able to get some house work done and maybe some sewing.
Anyway getting back to my original question
Is it still called controlled crying when you are holding her hand?