Awwww poor daniel he always seems to get the rough of it :( i hope he is feeling better soon and not letting that mean bully get to him . I hope the head of his year really deals with this That boy sounds horrible and spiteful. xxxx

You cannot control what other kids do but you can help and teach your child to deal with it (in a postive manner)...

It is no fun being bullied and then have someone think it your fault because the bully pulled the wool over the eyes of the person in charge!    Of course Daniel got frustrated and upset....

Bullying is a big deal and it can have such a negative effect on a child...We are currently going through the same thing with my niece...she is being bullied and it is affecting her behavior at home, she is having temper tantrums because she has to go to school...finally after a few weeks of this the school is taking measures to put a stop to it...getting everyone who should be involved...involved!  I am hoping that this works out in a positive way!

I know this has to be stressful for you as well....so keep your chin up and know that you are doing the right things to correct this...

Take care,

T.

Children can be so mean somtimes and what a horriable thing to say!!! I hope he feels better about things soon!!!

Poor Daniel! At least he felt able to go to the Year Head, and one that has a track record with TJ. No coincidence.

Can TJ give Daniel any ideas for dealing with the bullying, seeing as he's older & wiser (probably!)?

Unfortunately the older our kids get the less we can protect them from, but it sounds like you couldnt have done more anyway. Reporting this comment wouldnt have protected Daniel; in fact it might have brought the bully his way quicker (as the younger brother of the boy who "reported" him and therefore a softer target). 

I'm sure now the Head is involved it will improve. At least the school will be more aware of how this kid is behaving now and able to watch him. And I'm sure TJ will be looking out for Daniel a bit too. I was bullied thru Primary School and I remember only too well how horrible it is. But it is survivable.

 Hi love 

Just read your blog and i am so sorry this has happened and I trust the school will sort this out very soon.

Tell Daniel we are having a great time with Jakob and Emily and it has been lovely.

We hope to see you all on Saturday lunchtime

Love to you all Nan and Grandad

XXXXXXX

That isn't good hun.  You say this boy is a bit of a loner?  He might be trying to make friends, and is going about it the wrong way.  Children that aren't socialised often do this becuase they haven't been taught any different.  Yes, Daniel is giving this boy lots of attention, but the wrong sort, but the boy is going to lap it up any ways.  Whole point:  Why not get Daniel to write a letter to the boy explaining how he feels etc as well as saying to the boy if he wants to be friends, then make it easier on both of them by asking nicely.  Might work, might not, but it sounds good! lol.

As for the school counsellor, well, they broke the confidence of a student.  If that happened in Australia, they would be struck off for good.

Don't worry about not having reported the earlier comment.  I doubt much could have been done with it then.  I really hope the Year Head does nip this in the bud.  Poor little Daniel - he's certainly been through enough!!

Oh my gosh that is so frustrating.  My Daniel has had the same (or very similar) issues at school too so I do know how you feel.  Hope it all gets sorted out and its great you have the Year Head on your side!

Douggghhhh!  That sucks.  What on earth?  Now that sounds like the councellors I am use to.   Sounds like this little guy is well on his way to being a terror as he is, no need to grow up. Tell Daniel bullys are all about at all stages of your life and you need to understand that they are trying to undermind you because you have something they don't and it makes them uneasy.  Nell we just can't smooth every thing for our kiddies, wish we could, all we can do is understand.

 I so hope this can be nip in the bud ASAP, I so feel for Daniel, I was bullied all the way through primary school ( nothing was done to stop it back then) and it can affect so many aspects of your life if allowed to continue.

Are the school aware of this childs ambition's, do hope so....scary just thinking about it and where did he get those ambitions from???, also scary.

Love Janice

Hmm, think I would loose confidence in the school councellor too. What on earth was going through their head, what happend to "First and Foremost, Confidentiality !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not Proffessional at all,grrr.

I hope this gets resolved for Daniel, and soon. Many best wishes to you all.

Luv Winnie.xxxx

Poor Daniel - what a horrible experience.  I don't know how they can manage this effectively without making things worse for poor Daniel, but I hope he finds someone sympathetic and wise who will help him and the bully to work something out amicably.  Thinking of him...