I'll start with mine first, not because its more important but because I know a lot of members will realise how big this is to me.

Yesterday whilst driving to work, I saw am ambulance coming towards me, immediately I recognised the driver..............Yes it was him, the ex husband, I haven't seen him for at least a couple of years now, last time I saw him I had a panic attack just because I recognised him in the rear view mirror, plus all those times at court where my dad had to come with me, my solicitor seeing we were in separate rooms so I wouldn't have to see him, dad walking me to the court room, knowing the solicitor had assured him that he would stand between myself and the ex at all times and he would not be allowed to speak to me.....................

Anyway, as I was saying, I recognised him, I put a big smile on my face, drove ahead not even looking towards the ambulance, only noticing the double take from him as he recognised me...............I felt nothing!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not a flicker!!!!!!!!!!!

Now please don't think I was looking for a flicker of emotion!!!!!!!! LOL I came to terms a long time ago with the fact that I NEVER loved him, I was drawn in like a fly in a spiders web, now what greatly pleased me about feeling nothing was that I felt NO FEAR, NO NERVES, NO TREPIDATION NO NOTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!

He was a stranger!!!!!!!!!

D you know how long I have waited to feel safe if I ever crossed his path!!!!!! Now I know if I did see him in the street I would have the courage to keep walking, because I KNOW he can no longer hurt me, he is NOTHING to me

Now Thomas, ironically this is also to do with his father, I had an email from him a couple of weeks ago asking me to ask if Thomas still wanted to sell his drum kit.............I'm sure some of you will remember from a long time ago, the trouble we have had over this drum kit!!!! I asked Thomas for an answer, he asked me to forward the email to him as he wanted to deal with it!! I duly did so, he wrote back, "Of course I want to sell it, thats why you had it in the first place, you told me you had a buyer years ago!!!"

Thomas had a reply that he had a buyer interested and so would go ahead with the sale

Next Thomas had an email asking if he would like to meet his dad so his dad could give him the money from the sale, Thomas said No thanks, put it in mums account and she will give me the cash. Thomas's cash was paid in so last weekend I drew the money out and we went shopping. Thomas had a wonderful time, he bought himself some trendy new trainers, a coat, 2 t shirts and 2 pairs of jeans, he was thrilled with himself and his purchases

Me, I was just so proud of by boy turning before my eyes into a young man

Finally, my boy Daniel!!!

After the disastrous few weeks we have had, believe me its still not easy, yesterday he came home with a letter saying he had a minor head injury, after someone thought it funny to swipe his chair as he went to sit down,, not a friendly prank but a malicious one !!! Grrrr

Today, Daniel has come home from school literally glowing

He put his name down as form captain, he had to make a speech and answer questions from the rest of the form and

WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He was elected as Form Captain

Thankfully all his friends are in his form, if he could have lessons with his form he would be fine, however, lessons are now in sets so he is separated from his friends most of the day during lessons

But I do know this is one GIANT leap of confidence for him

I am so proud of my little shining star