Yesterday I was in town with My boys and My Mum when a friend I used to know, and she goes to the church Ex goes to  came over and said Hello!!!
I gotta tell you it really threw me!!
AT FIRST
She came up and was like Hi, you look great!! How are you?
I smiled politely and said Fine thanks???? (Just like the old me would have responded!)
She then said "We are all praying for you!!"
Then the new me kicked in!!!!!
I answered "Really it doesn't feel like that???"
She nodded sympathetically and said Well we are!
I said Two years ago I was so ill he nearly killed me, where were my friends then?
She didn't answer!
So I asked if she could explain to me then why the boys come back to me after going to that church and saying that they went to the church where everyone hates their mum??
She looked shocked!
I then said Why would a church allow someone to publish in their magazine an article where it is all lies form him, without even asking for my point of view? I also said Why can't they see that no one would walk away from a 20 year marriage without having a really good reason for it!!!
She said I know there are two sides to everything
I replied that no one has been interested in asking for my side, they just want to support him
I told her that I was sick of hearing what is happening in their church and that they were all hypocrites. I kept getting teary eyed and apologising to her for my attack
But she did listen
I told her what kind of a Pastor (her church) listens to someones personal detais of their story then dismisses them as lies even seeing how hurting I was, then later turns up at the house with Ex to collect items even though I begged it not to be the Pastor that came with him.
All the time we were talking the boys kept running up to me and hugging me saying Are you OK Mum?? Bless
I kept saying to go and stand with Nanny I was fine
But they kept returning looking anxious
I told her it was because, she was the first person they had seen talking to me and so were worried for me.
I told her how freaked out we were that Ex was going to be an ambulance man in our area, she knew all about this and told me its only when he does his training!!!!
I told her that the Police knew how scared I was so were going to keep an eye on me
That shocked her!!!!!
I was shaking and feeling sick at this point, my Mum kept glancing over she was stood a little apart from me with the boys and she kept saying are you ok? I kept nodding!
My final statement was if a marriage breaks up because the couple grow apart, as he is claiming, then logically you can find a way to work together for the sake of the children.
But if one partner is living in fear, in a secret address and has been suicidal and ill for a long time and had to go to DV counselling courses. Doesn't that make her question anything.
She thanked me for telling my side
I don't care if she believed me or not. I can't believe I did it!!!!
Just at the time I was talking to her I had a text from Lightbee!!!! I was so pleased to be able to tell her all about it!!!
Great timing Leith!!!!
When I later told my daughter she was really pleased for me
I just can't believe I did it