Helen, he can never just leave well enough alone, can he?  So sorry he is ALWAYS messing with your brain and making you wonder about his motives.  I would say that I hope he has good motives, but you are right to question them. 

Hi Helen

Hey he might just be having a spring clean, sorry that was my bad attempt at sarcasm.   Of course he is obviously trying to worry the boys especially Daniel who is still sitting on the fence, I hope the boys stick to their guns in mediation.  Have faith he's slowly losing control and he doesn't like it, I can't believe that he can be so manipulative.

Hi Helen

While i was reading this, the first though that came to my mind was that he is getting rid of everything that belings to the boys. I know from a first hand experience that when your dad give back EVERYTHING that belongs to you, it hurts like hell. You may be happy to have your stuff back, but you realise that your father wants nothing to do with you anymore. I would say that he is trying to hurt the boys...

On the other hand, maybe he has come to his senses (????) and realised that the boys should have the things that belong to them.. .

Or maybe he thinks it will look good to the mediator when he says that he has returned all of the kids belongings back to them

Hope the boys are ok. If only they were Austin's age, they would have loved the empty box!

Cass xoxoxox

My knee-jerk reaction is he's trying to panic Daniel (& maybe Thomas) into re-establishing regular contact. Poor Daniel - he's so susceptible to them too.

Remember, he's an alien from outer space, he does not think like us!  Otherwise he'd realise what a rotten thing it is to play mind games through your kids with your ex.

Weird,Weird,Weird. You dont think he has met  another Woman and is clearing the decks and is going to give up on the boy's incase they drop him in the myre? Nah, My imagination is working over time. I do wish though that he was giving up, as young Daniel would hopefully find peace again once he got over the grief of rejection.

Thinking of you all,Luv Winnie.xxxx

I know you don't really know me, but I've been reading your blog and become intrigued. Isn't it frustrating dealing with–from what it sounds like–manipulative and immature parents?! Ugh. And the poor kids are always the ones who suffer. My stepson has a, ahem, difficult mother who, thankfully, lives in another country! It doesn't take her long to mess with his head, though, and reading this about suddenly giving all the kids' stuff back totally sounds like some kind of sneaky attempt to say x has been robbed (*sob*) of his wonderful children and every reminder of them at this mediation (that I'm not totally clear about). Or, does he have a new woman in his life and wants to pretend his past never happened?! It sounds like you just need to be ready for anything! You're the goalie who has to defend whatever shot comes your way! Hugs to Daniel, poor kid.

HJey Helen,

S now he is trying the mind games now is he grr that man makes me sick oh he is trying to hurt the boys by giving their stuff back they have hurt him so it looks like is trying to do the same to them please oh please introduce me to him clockwise , anti clockwise , clockwise oh go on it would be so much fun. No seriously i really do think he is trying tpo get the boys to get in touch with him so he can play with their heads and thats not fair.

Keep your chin up

Luv Emz xxx

sounds like hes tryin to get control.....

i know the whole il find their stuff and hand it back so i can see them senario, and this sounds like it.

take care hun

xxxnat

 When is this mediation meant  to be happening?????? Not sure what his motives are for  doing this , but i think i agree with Ngairi on this.

But my thoughts go out to Daniel, this poor kid must feel like he is on a roller coaster and does'nt know when it is going to stop.....what emotional pressure for one so young to deal with.

I so hope this mediation fixes  X's little red wagon, once and for all.

My deepest thoughts will be with you all, while i'm away, sorry i won't be around for you,, Helen.

Much love Janice xxxxx

Either fighting a losing battle, or trying to say that none of the kids things are kept at his place, before he goes to mediation. I am a suspicious person sometimes, and his history does not make for trust.

Look at it this way, he could be removing the things from his house that were around during times of tension so that they aren't a constant reminder.  He might be going to get new things that don't have that history for the boys.  Clean start!

Just a different way of looking at it that makes it seem less scary.

What the future holds, noone knows, but we all know that we have to make the happiness we want ourselves and leave the junk (-x) behind.  Chin up all of you, your strength is greater than you think!

That is weird!  I must admit I wouldn't interpret it as being nice.  Unfortunately I fear Daniel may be right as I would interpret it as him turning his back on the boys.  At best, I would interpret it as he is moving house and is cleaning things out that he doesn't have to move with him. 

On the bright side, if he's giving up a claim on the boys, at least it could mean that you could all have a happy life together.  I can certainly understand Daniel would be hurt by -x attitude but I can't help but feel he'd be better off without him.