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Fighting Again !!!

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I wondered why my bank account has been so low this month, although red is a prettier colour than black LOL !!!!

I've just worked out why, the jerk hasn't paid me any upkeep for the boys since early June!

He is such a loser, I was married to him for over 20 years and walked away from it with nothing but £6,000 some debts that had been put in my name and no home !!!   because I did not want his money so I took a measly amount, didn't go looking into any of the business issues of how a whole business and bank accounts that I was a part of disappeared overnight. I wanted NOTHING from him.

After a few months of the boys getting nothing from him either, I realised I was doing the boys a disservice so I went to CSA and asked them to get something for the boys, turns out the boys were entitled to £18 a week each from him, great, that will easy get them food, clothes and a roof over their heads !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Now it looks like he isn't paying again, probably because he is fuming that they want to have nothing to do with him, well I have news for him, I may not want anything for myself, but his sons will not go without because he is a unfit father !!!!!

My parents are paying my rent at the moment whilst he is sitting pretty !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am so angry, I don't get angry often but when I do................take cover

Looks like I will be making any interesting call to CSA today, he already has a huge reduction because when I first went to CSA he was having the boys alternate weekends and some holidays, but now my boys deserve the full amount and man they are going to get it. Thomas hasn't seen him for 11 months now and won't even talk about him, he tells everyone he has no father, Daniel has seen him only once for a few hours since early this year and has even told the school that he wants to rip his fathers heart out and stamp on it like his dad did to him.

I'm about to roll my sleeves up and do some fighting !!!!!!!!!!!!

 

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Rukia
July 27th | Rukia
Re: Fighting Again !!!

I hope he cops it from them.



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janicepovey
July 27th | janicepovey
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 Poll your sleeves up, get your skates on Helen and go get him....gee his got a hide,   I can only imagine how your feeling about your parents paying your rent, i bet he isn't doing without anything.

But i am impressed with how your talking sweetie compare to 12 months ago or even 6 months ago.... am so proud of you.

I will dig out a pair of boxing gloves and send  over!....gp get him!

Love Janice xxxxx



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      nell18-3
July 27th | nell18-3
Re: Fighting Again !!!

My parents have been incredible throughout all this, I keep telling them I will pay them back one day, they just smile but I do want some pride !!!!

I want to be able to provide for us myself and one day I will, I am determined to get back on my feet financially, I'll keep applying for those jobs until I find the right one

Thanks Janice

xxx

 



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mariamum
July 27th | mariamum
Re: Fighting Again !!!

How low can he go???  This is his way of getting back at you and the boys, can't believe what a small minded petty individual he can be.  I'm glad you've gone to the CSA, get them to sort it out that is what they are there for and I hope he pays you all you're entitled to and more.

Don't forget when you are rolling up those sleeves to put on your boxing gloves as well, lol.

xxxxxx



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      nell18-3
July 27th | nell18-3
Re: Fighting Again !!!

thanks Maria

He is just a total scumbag !!!! Grr

xxx

 



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Arna
July 24th | Arna
Re: Fighting Again !!!

Just use the new you to sort it all out hun.  Don't back down for anyone and make sure that your boys are taken care of.

How petty he should use the excuse that he doesn't get to see the boys.  He caused the problems, and your boys are old enough to know what they do and don't want.



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      nell18-3
July 25th | nell18-3
Re: Fighting Again !!!

Thanks Arna

Ridiculously petty isn't it !!

xxx

 



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electrifying02
July 24th | electrifying02
Re: Fighting Again !!!

oh dear helen hope he has to pay you back every bit . i am thinking of you

love ya loads

belxx



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      nell18-3
July 25th | nell18-3
Re: Fighting Again !!!

Thanks Bel

Sounds like he has to backpay the boys hahahaha

xxx

 



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emmie
July 24th | emmie
Re: Fighting Again !!!

Im coming to oin you girl come on lets get him go on it would really make mny day and yours too we could really do some damage to himhaha. How ddid it go with CSA . ? xxx



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      nell18-3
July 25th | nell18-3
Re: Fighting Again !!!

Thankyou Emz

It went great with CSA, all sorted !!!!

xxx

 



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allyp
July 24th | allyp
Re: Fighting Again !!!

Wow.. I can't believe your ex is doing this.. What a jerk he's being.. Now aren't they suppose to garnish his wages if he doesn't pay up every month??

Men... eh?? You can't live with them and well you can't live without them.. (well maybe sometimes!! lol)
£18 each for two kids.. Is that alot? I think my dad pays like $490 a month (Canadian) for my younger sister (actually she's my niece but my parents adopted her after my sister gave birth to her - shes 6 now)

Did you go to CSA yet?? If so, what did they tell you?
And just cuz your kids don't wanna see him or in some points don't want nothing to do with him.. He still has to pay up.. Whether he likes it or not.. GRRRRR, Can I beat him :D lol



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      nell18-3
July 24th | nell18-3
Re: Fighting Again !!!

Hey Ally

To be honest I think what he pays is pretty pathetic, sounds like he pays roughly the same as your dad pays for just the 1 whereas he is paying for 2 !!!!

xxx

 



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cazza
July 24th | cazza
Re: Fighting Again !!!

woohooo you Go girl, so proud of you,, Hope they make him squirm....

He deserves everything he gets... grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr...

Wish i was the person to tell him lol...

xx cazza



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      nell18-3
July 24th | nell18-3
Re: Fighting Again !!!

LOL Cazza

I can see how much you would love to be the messenger in this, he would have every reason to be very scared LOL

xxx

 



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lightbee
July 24th | lightbee
Re: Fighting Again !!!

That man is not even a man at all.  He's a mole.  What a low-life, pond-sucking scumball.  Mind you, its pretty typical behaviour.  It always amazes me how people can act like they don't have to take any responsibility for their kids if they aren't in constant contact with them.  Don't they understand parenthood is for life?  Grrrr...

Good luck with the fight, sweetie. Let me know how you go...



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      nell18-3
July 24th | nell18-3
Re: Fighting Again !!!

Thanks Leith

What a great way with words you have LOL We both think the same of his character  !

xxx

 



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BrightonBelle
July 24th | BrightonBelle
Re: Fighting Again !!!

You go girl! When will these men realise that they are causing their children grief not just their mothers, so selfish of them. I hope you get what he owes you and you give him what for.

 



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      nell18-3
July 24th | nell18-3
Re: Fighting Again !!!

You're exactly right !!!!

I don't care what he does he has to live with his own decisions, but its his boys that are being punished !!!!!!

xxx

 



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lonely28
July 24th | lonely28
Re: Fighting Again !!!

GO HELEN!!! What a complete jerk..... that makes me so mad !!! I have never received one bit of child support from the sperm donor and I know how tough it can be. Tell you what girl, I've got my sleeves rolled up and I'm ready to stand by you and fight!!!! Take no prisoners Helen!!!!

love ya,

fi xoxo



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      nell18-3
July 24th | nell18-3
Re: Fighting Again !!!

Cool !!!!!!

I'm bound to win when they see you marching towards them with your sleeves rolled up too !!!!!

Take care

xxx

 



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dinsdale
July 24th | dinsdale
Re: Fighting Again !!!

You go girl. Fight it. It makes me mad when fathers do things like this.

Hope it all works out and you start to get your money back. Besides if the boys don't want to see him then maybe he should have a good hard look at himself. They are old enough to make there owns decisions now, Good luck

Luv Trace xxx



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      nell18-3
July 24th | nell18-3
Re: Fighting Again !!!

I could understand why I would be blamed for this if they were small and didn't want to see their dad, but they are 14 and 11 !!!!! Old enough to know their own minds thats for sure

xxx

 



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Rukia
July 24th | Rukia
Re: Fighting Again !!!

good luck Helen.



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      nell18-3
July 24th | nell18-3
Re: Fighting Again !!!

Thanks Hunni

xxx

 



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mumof2b
July 24th | mumof2b
Re: Fighting Again !!!

That gets me so angry.......how dare he do that. He's just one of those scumbags that has to fight everything. Just don't let him get away with it.

You go girl

xxxxx

 



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      nell18-3
July 24th | nell18-3
Re: Fighting Again !!!

thanks Amanda

He won't get away from it I can assure you, to me he is stealing from his sons, how low is that !!!!!!

xxx

 



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