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Apr

Success and the cost of friendship...

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Hey All

Well, I’m on holidays for two weeks and thought I’d drop in and say hey to ya’ll... Things are going well at Uni, well...despite finding it hard to get back into study mode after such a long break over Christmas – but I’m getting there.

Ya know – I’ve had a taste of true friendship so far this year. I’ve also had a taste of how success can bring the worst out in others – others who call themselves friends but can’t handle it when you’re moving forward.

I received a letter from the uni a few weeks ago letting me know that I have been awarded a certificate in academic achievement and that I am in the top 15% of my division. So I was pretty happy with that. I’ve was also invited to join something called the ‘Golden Key’ - which is an international honour society. It has chapters in over 330 universities in Australia, New Zealand, Canada, United States, South Africa and Malaysia and membership is by invitation only. 

I’m proud of my academic achievement. I’ve worked bloody hard to get where I am and it’s been a lot of hard work and sacrifice. So yeah, occasionally I toot my own horn but I don’t try and do the ‘Look at me’ thing...but I do and have done the ‘wow, I’ve done it!’ thing (know what I mean?).

I have three friends who go to uni too. They are in the same year level as I am but different courses. I’m doing my bachelor of education and their doing social work, but only one of these friends have been supportive or happy for me – the other is so over the top jealous they have done nothing more than try and rip my achievements apart. It’s incredible... I received a phone call from one of them asking for my help with their computer, half way through helping them they ask how I’m going at uni – so I tell them – I didn’t volunteer this info...they asked. Man, did I get smacked down in a hurry. I told them about the achievement award and invitation and get a response like this.... ‘Yeah, well so what. I don’t care and I’m not interested. My lecturer told me (blah, blah, blah)’ however, she then goes on about her computer and if I can help her out.

I just find it so sad when friends can’t handle others moving forward. I understand being envious – man , that’s been me most of my life. I’ve looked at friends in the past who have completed university and are working in the field they want – I’ve had to put all that on hold ‘til now...but my envy never got in the way of my friendship..I just envied them – not hated them for it. Each time I’ve shared something with them they’ve done the – yeah..well, look at what I’ve done. Almost like they think I’m rubbing it in or something. I stopped telling them things because of it. I didn’t want to do the competitive game. I just can’t be bothered with it... but I tell ya, their attitudes almost make me want to rub it in and do the ‘nah, nah, nah, nah, naaah’ thang...lol – but I won’t that’s just the ‘biatch’ in me coming out...

Anyways, despite the BS and jealousy...everything is going well. I also wanted to thank ya’ll for the birthday wishes... I had a good day. Luke cooked up a BBQ for me and I got to spend it with the those I’m close. Luke even made me a birthday cake – his a good kid/man...

Ok, well I’m off to do some lounge hopping.... Hope you are all well...

Love and hugs OB  

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Arna
April 24th | Arna
Re: Success and the cost of friendship...

Wooohooo!  You are doing so well!  Congrats!  You are going to be my inspiration for when I finally get to my studies!

As for the snooty friend, who needs them?  You got us!



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August88
April 19th | August88
Re: Success and the cost of friendship...

Hi OB, Good on you for making the top 15%. What an achievement! I don't understand people that can't be happy for you. I wish you every success and happiness. I can imagine you have worked damn hard for those results so hold your head high. That's fantastic!

About the birthday, I didn't know but then I would have been too scared to leave any well wishes after the last blog. Thought you were a bit touchy about the getting older thing, you know. LOL Until next time mate! Let us know how you are going now and then. I love hearing success stories. I watched Australian story on DVD last night. A few great stories of Wayne Bennett, Hazel Hawke just to name a couple on the tape. Inspiring stories! Enjoy the rest of the weekend, Lynette xx



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janicepovey
5.00 (Excellent) | April 19th | janicepovey
Re: Success and the cost of friendship...

 Dear OB, how could this blog slip by me without knowing, i'm so  sorry, that i missed your birthday dear friend, hoe it was a beautiful day for you, and on the quiet i have missed you heaps.

The biggest Congratulations on your fantastic achievements, you should feel  over the moon....stand tall & proud....the decision to go back to uni and the sacrifices you have made, have been all worth while in recieving these awarda..."Golden Key" and being in the top 15%....i am so very proud of you.

The person your talking about is not a friend, because true friends do not act like that..... true friends only want the best for you.

Bathe in your glory OB, you certainly deserve it.

Much love Janice xxxxx



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madchanny
5.00 (Excellent) | April 19th | madchanny
Re: Success and the cost of friendship...

Hey OB!

CONGRATULATIONS for your success and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!

i for one am super-proud of ya!

I love to hear about friends and family's achievements, its great to hear it when they worked hard for it, they deserve it when they put the effort in for it :)

xx

 



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hermy
5.00 (Excellent) | April 15th | hermy
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don't you let them worry........congratulations on your great achievement............

sorry i missed your birthday.....Happy Birthday...........hope you had a good one.........sounds like you did......Hugs Sandra xxx



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Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | April 15th | Marglr
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Hummm so you are still off fishing,miss you! Happy Birthday and Congratulations on uni and being invited to that group. Your accomplishments stand on their own and you should be so proud,I am for you!!



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nell18-3
5.00 (Excellent) | April 13th | nell18-3
Re: Success and the cost of friendship...

I'm so pleased for you

You deserve it as we all know the work you would have put in to earn this credit. Good for You

As for your "friends" ........Jealousy is a dangerous poison

Still think you are an incredible woman. Good to see you popping in, I miss you

xxx

 



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cassaustin
5.00 (Excellent) | April 12th | cassaustin
Re: Success and the cost of friendship...

Well i think that is fabulous!

It gets me down when your friends cant be happy for you and what you have done. I dont understand it at all really. Sounds like you have worked your butt off to get to where you are and you deserve everything that has come your way!

Glad to hear that you had a nice birthday. Hope you have had a lovely weekend.

Cass xox



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mumof2b
5.00 (Excellent) | April 12th | mumof2b
Re: Success and the cost of friendship...

Hey OB.......Good to see you back online for a bit.

It's sad when "friends" show their true colours........success is one sure way to weed out the people who are only friends with you for their benefit.

I'm so happy that things are going so well for you, and wow what a way to be shown you're doing an amazing job. You must be so proud of yourself.

Lots of love........Amanda xxxxx



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pavementcracks70
5.00 (Excellent) | April 12th | pavementcracks70
Re: Success and the cost of friendship...

so did you help her out with the computer in the end? lol

best not to reflect to much on jealously as self doubt will set in.....understand the bemusement and sadness at the same time over  'cant move forward before me friend' friend?..........celebrate your achievements in a big way, you have waited long for this>>>>>>yipee!!!!!! with or without ALL your friends ....chuckle....

all the best

rue



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Ngairi
5.00 (Excellent) | April 12th | Ngairi
Re: Success and the cost of friendship...

Hey OB, job well done. That is great with the academic achievement and the Golden Key. So happy for you.

Hope you enjoyed your birthday.

Enjoy your holidays. and best of luck with the next term.



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anniebabe
5.00 (Excellent) | April 12th | anniebabe
Re: Success and the cost of friendship...

yeah it hurts but you  have heard the saying "who needs enemies when you have friends  like that"

well done on your achievement .

i hope you enjoyed your birthday mine is around the corner 3 weeks time may 2nd . on 24th may im going hot air ballooning (thats my present from last year i had a 12 month gift certificate) i recently wrote about it on my blog hey im scared of heights!!!

enjoy  your holidays although im sure you have assignments and the rest

have a great weekend too

cheers annie



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cazza
5.00 (Excellent) | April 12th | cazza
Re: Success and the cost of friendship...

Good to see you back on here briefly, and Well done on your achievements, and dont let anyone take you down, as if they were your true friends they be there to support you no matter what...

Your son sounds gorgeous and what a nice day you had for your bday...

all good my end, and you keep that head high there, and know we are all so proud of how far you are coming in your studies....

xx cazza



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