I am constantly being told by well meaning know it alls that i am patting her on the back too hard cause i have a firm hand well I have had enough...

yes I know it is hard but... I also know what works for my daughter she is quite strong and she likes it that way

a soft tap just makes her very unhappy as the wind doesnt move and people who try to take over wonder why nothing they r doing makes her settle...

Plus if it was too hard do you think she would be making a nice contented sigh and be falling asleep... She loves a firm pat... I would never hurt my daughter and if I was doing it tooo hard she would let me know just like she does when she doesn't want her belly rubbed or when she doesn't want me to rub her feet... or if i accidently (she does this realy not me) head but her...

My daughter is already set in her ways and knows what she likes... And I am her mother and I know what works... I feel like ripping the tongue out of the next person who tells me that as i am sick to death of always having to explain myself. I should not have to... If people can not see she is falling to sleep with a smile on her face then they must be blind... I think they ust just see me patting her and cause it looks slightly harder than they think it should be they think they need to say something...

AAAAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah....Ok I feel better now had to get that out!

Ne1 else have these problems?