You're allowed to say no to him, you don't have to give people 2nd chances if you aren't comfortable doing so. Sometimes just staying friends can turn out better for the kids. But then if you decide that you do want to go back to a relationship with him, be it now or further down the track, there's nothing to say you can't do that either.

You said it is hard for your boys now, but if you got back with him and it failed again it will be even harder for them.  Sounds to me you know what you want .....stick to your guns!

Hey sarah, I am not going to tell you yes take him back or no don't because I don't know the full story but from what I have just read I think you have already made your mind up and I think you also know within you heart that it is the right decision. somethingsto contemplate though. Is he worth the grieving again if it doesn't work out and can you guarantee that he is off the drugs. There is no point in being with some one when there is not 100% trust from both sides and i personally don't think it is  great to get back together with some one if it is only for a child. Children are better off with 2 happy homes rather than one hostile home.

Hope you get everything sorted soon.

Karen. xx.