I have a three year old and a 8 year old, both imho pretty amazing perfect kids. Until last week I thought the teachers at my youngest school were of the same mind. Then it was the parent/teachers conference where I was told that Keira is not doing so well, she has a lack of gross motor skills, not independent enough and apparently very quiet and non-communicative (towards the teachers, not her mates) in class. NOT the child I know at home - she chats non-stop, is game to go out at any time and does not mind new places and things, in fact I sometimes have to look for her when we go shopping.

So now I am off to buy a balance ball, as soon as I get my bonus I am buying a trampoline and some whiskey (trampoline for her, whiskey for me) and looking into kiddies yoga/pilates classes. Which may also cost me a fortune.

She is also constantly complaining of stomach ache and after seeing a homeopath/gp this morning we are going to have to do some blood tests to see if she is gluten intolerant (like her dad).

To top it all off, we stay in the crime capital of the world, so I have had an attempted break in on our property this morning. See why I need the whiskey?

It is funny, I can deal with the bloodtests and even the bastards trying to break-in, but the kindergarten report is killing me. You see I can fix the other two - bloodtests will hurt a little bit but it will give us clarity, I can put up an electric fence, move my big dogs to the front of the property, get panic buttons and an alarm system to deal with the baddies - but what do I do about her anti-social, insecure, quiet behaviour? And why does it feel as though the kindergarten teachers do not love her as much as they should? It is as if she irritates them in stead of being loved. There is one teacher there that has kind eyes when she talks about her, the others I don't know... maybe I am just sensitive,maybe just sad.

It is also not so easy as just to move her to another school. This is an excellent Montesorri school, her older sister is going to the primary school, it is close to home and she has been exposed to a LOT of changes over the past 6 months: we moved from another town to johannesburg, the 1st place we stayed  here in joburg we encountered numerous problems with our landlord and decided to move to another house in the area - thus 2 moves in 6 months, new school etc. I think maybe I must just let settle in and she will show them what a spectacular kid she is.

And she really is - she smiles all the time, sings all the time and even when she is desperately sick she just becomes silent - not demanding. She just takes her time before she trusts people. Until then I will do exercises with her to improve gross motor skills and hope this nagging feeling that they don't really love her goes away.. Because shouldn't your child's teachers really love them? especially in kindergarten? or am i an idealist? all these questions...