I was wondering about that, it had me thinking during the day that maybe she has some kind of a chemical imballance.. This boyfriend she has, how long have they been going together? Maybe he is sending her crazy or since having the baby her hormones are running out of control...  It is a tough one not knowing the whole situation.  I have a friend who was really nice, fun to be with and now since having her second child I find it almost impossible to be around her. She has become nasty with her comments and treats her hubby like rubbish.  When the husband talked about it we commented on seeing the change ourselves and asked about PND.. He said she was checked out for that.. And we just put it down to the fact that she was expecting the second child to be as easy as the first.. But it has not been like she had planed...

Maybe she feels like she is out of control, the boyfriend might be a real wack job if you know the expression.  Maybe after having the baby the boyfriend is seeing your friend in a different light and she is taking it out on the baby...

I wish I could help I really do, I hate hearing about things like this....

THe hardest thing for an outsider to do is watch and feel powerless...  The fact that she got a restraining order out on this second guy, is a good sign as you say... Maybe having some time on her own might just give her back some of the sanity that she had lost.. Maybe what she needs is someone to show her she might not be as useless as she feels. She might be stuck in a pattern with men from what you said about the father of the baby and her second boyfriend..

Good luck in court today, as some one mentioned before maybe this is the wake up call she needs... And she might just get her act together....