I was going to put this in the advice area but after thinking about it I decided to keep this blurb here. I'm not really sure if it fits or not in the advise area.
What compelled me to write this evening was the sadness I was feeling while puttering around in the kitchen doing after dinner dishes.
It's Good Friday here in Canada.. and that means that there is no school. My daughter has spent a blessed day off watching TV and playing with her brother for part of the morning. It's been a blissfully quiet day here. Almost too quiet.
She decided she wanted to have dinner in her room while watching a movie. As it's a holiday I said "no problem" and I had my supper on my own in the kitchen. After wards she came out with her dinner plate, (thanked me) and zipped back into her room.
While doing the dishes (a short while later) I was suddenly overwhelmed with sadness and a sense of loss. My darling little girl just turned 12 a few weeks ago and has started to become more independent.... which is good, don't get me wrong... but it's such a change of lifestyle.
For over a decade you have someone in your life that "wants" to spend time with you.. wants to curl up on the couch and read with you.. watch a good movie together.. go out and make snow angels and catch flakes on your tongues... and during that time you sometimes go crazy just wishing you could have a few minutes to yourself so you could think.
Well that time does come... and a lot faster than you expect it to.
I was standing at the sink remembering times that we shared together blowing bubbles across the dishes.. shooing the pets out of the way so we could put the dishes away.. and sharing meals together over the counter while chatting away. It was a very lonely feeling to be drying the dishes on my own and watching the sun go down through the kitchen window.
It was then I decided to pop on line and write this little bit of advise out.
Take advantage of the time you have with your children. I know, I know. it seems like the same old words that you hear all over the place.. but really.. it does mean something. All those little moments in time where you think you are going to go crazy because you just don't have a "second" of time for yourself.. those times that you wish you could just curl up with a book and be left alone to finish a chapter in your book?
They will come.. and you'll be thankful for those times.. but the flip side of the coin is that suddenly you realize that your child has turned into a young adult..
You'll still be special.. you'll still be a mom or a dad.. but that feeling of being needed full time will not be there any more. And it's sad when you start to come to terms with the fact that your darling child is growing up.. growing up so fast that suddenly she's looking for clothes in "your" closet and taking the phone into her room..
So when they come to you with a game in their hands.. or a book that they want to be read from.. find the time.
Because the time will come that there'll be no more time left.
It's a wonderful wonderful adventure in life and I'm so very glad to have my daughter with me to experience it all.....
But GOSH the time sure went by FAST!!!
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Member » Vikki
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