http://www.minti.com/members/wombat68/activity/ Latest activity by wombat68 on Minti Copyright 2008 Minti en-uk wombat68 Congrats on the upgrade.  Looks good. Wombat Wombat]]> http://www.minti.com/members/matthew/blog/165220/New-Minti-Release--Info-inside/#165221 http://www.minti.com/members/matthew/blog/165220/New-Minti-Release--Info-inside/#165221 Tue, 20 Jun 2006 04:03:20 -0700 wombat68 My wife has always said that the first 3 months were the easy bit.  Now the Australian National University has confirmed it in a recent study. (1) New mothers are usually given no support from... (1) New mothers are usually given no support from...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/517/Working-conditions-for-mothers-worsen-rather-than-improve/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/517/Working-conditions-for-mothers-worsen-rather-than-improve/ Mon, 19 Jun 2006 22:34:04 -0700 wombat68 In a recent article, I read that using the "naughty corner" could lead to children being labelled as "Naughty".  It's an interesting criticism.  Labels, like... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/516/Being-naughty-is-not-the-same-as-being-a-naughty-boy/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/516/Being-naughty-is-not-the-same-as-being-a-naughty-boy/ Wed, 21 Jun 2006 20:24:58 -0700 wombat68 I think you should keep them to a minimum.  There are a number of other skills that are more important.  Firstly, learning to make their own games when they get bored is a skill that will... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/378/Introduce-Video-Games-Positively/#213606 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/378/Introduce-Video-Games-Positively/#213606 Mon, 05 Jun 2006 18:56:11 -0700 wombat68 I can only sympathise.  I wish it was an option for everyone.  I know it isn't.  I wasn't trying to make people who have to work hard and long hours to keep a roof over their heads and... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/225/Spend-time-with-your-kids-before-its-too-late/#212746 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/225/Spend-time-with-your-kids-before-its-too-late/#212746 Mon, 05 Jun 2006 06:02:57 -0700 wombat68 I can only sympathise.  I wish it was an option for everyone.  I know it isn't.  I wasn't trying to make people who have to work hard and long hours to keep a roof over their heads and... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/225/Spend-time-with-your-kids-before-its-too-late/#212747 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/225/Spend-time-with-your-kids-before-its-too-late/#212747 Mon, 05 Jun 2006 06:02:55 -0700 wombat68 I think it's great you are aware of your own challenges.  It's hard not to yell.  I'd be the first to admit that I've done a fair bit of yelling.  I have to remind myself constantly... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/239/Yelling-at-Children-Can-Be-Harmful/#212851 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/239/Yelling-at-Children-Can-Be-Harmful/#212851 Fri, 19 May 2006 04:35:33 -0700 wombat68 Good adivce.  It's really important to encourage kids to talk rather than react with screaming or agression.  When they get older, it is also about listening and giving them a voice in the... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/292/Encourage-use-of-language/#213051 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/292/Encourage-use-of-language/#213051 Fri, 19 May 2006 04:25:52 -0700 wombat68 Not much point trying to explain why he shouldn't do what he's doing, because psychologically he isn't capable of sympathising with others.  CHildren only develop that skill when they reach 7 to... http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/300893/4-year-old-tormenter/#300898 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/300893/4-year-old-tormenter/#300898 Fri, 19 May 2006 04:19:42 -0700 wombat68 We have two kids and they can speak and understand both English and Danish.  What I think is important is that each parent talks to their children in their mother tongue some of the time. ... http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/300930/learning-two-languages/#300934 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/300930/learning-two-languages/#300934 Fri, 19 May 2006 04:08:09 -0700 wombat68 It's been fun and I like the idea of a community.  Hope I haven't bored everyone with my focus on Spanking.  A bit of a crusade really.   Wombat  
Wombat]]> http://www.minti.com/members/claycook/blog/164922/First-Minti-member-to-rank-4-Wombat68/#164923 http://www.minti.com/members/claycook/blog/164922/First-Minti-member-to-rank-4-Wombat68/#164923 Thu, 11 May 2006 21:15:23 -0700 wombat68 I think that it is very probable that the child is testing your strength. He wants to find out whether he can trust you. I had similar experiences when working as a nanny. As he is 8 years old, it... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/271/Very-difficult/#212971 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/271/Very-difficult/#212971 Tue, 09 May 2006 05:25:01 -0700 wombat68 I'm definitely in for discipline.  You've got to step.  But as my other articles on the subject explain.  There are plenty of alternatives and by spanking you are only showing your... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/269/First-rule-of-Spanking-Never-hit-a-child-in-anger/#212963 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/269/First-rule-of-Spanking-Never-hit-a-child-in-anger/#212963 Mon, 08 May 2006 17:08:48 -0700 wombat68 If you spend a half-an-hour reading the many websites that argue the case for removing spanking or any corporal punishment from the home, it is amazing to think how prevalent it is in Australia and... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/269/First-rule-of-Spanking-Never-hit-a-child-in-anger/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/269/First-rule-of-Spanking-Never-hit-a-child-in-anger/ Sun, 07 May 2006 07:41:07 -0700 wombat68 I agree with the carpark strategy.  It's time consuming and you can't let your attention slip for a second.  But it works.  I was walking with my 2 yr old yesterday and thought that I... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/249/How-to-reign-in-someone-elses-child/#212881 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/249/How-to-reign-in-someone-elses-child/#212881 Fri, 05 May 2006 17:52:23 -0700 wombat68 I think your advice is good. I do take exception to the discussion of corporal punishment as necessary to convey seriousness. Social punishment remains much more powerful as a learning device than... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/249/How-to-reign-in-someone-elses-child/#212882 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/249/How-to-reign-in-someone-elses-child/#212882 Thu, 04 May 2006 22:52:21 -0700 wombat68 I agree that it is very important to teach children to avoid being run over. But I have never needed to do it with a current child at 2 and a 6 year old. You just have to hold them and be very... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/199/Spanking-Is-it-OK/#212625 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/199/Spanking-Is-it-OK/#212625 Thu, 04 May 2006 20:09:52 -0700 wombat68 Thanks for your comments. I just not convinced that because our parents did it, we should. I think the fact that it is illegal in all the Scandinavian countries and that the American Psychological... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/238/8-Reasons-Not-to-Spank-Your-Child/#212829 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/238/8-Reasons-Not-to-Spank-Your-Child/#212829 Sun, 30 Apr 2006 17:25:38 -0700 wombat68     What does the research show? Most parents, even the most patient ones, lose their temper and yell at their children....  






What does the research show?
Most parents, even the most patient ones, lose their temper and yell at their children....]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/239/Yelling-at-Children-Can-Be-Harmful/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/239/Yelling-at-Children-Can-Be-Harmful/ Sun, 30 Apr 2006 04:10:05 -0700 wombat68 1. Hitting children teaches them to become hitters themselves. Extensive research data is now available to support a direct correlation between corporal punishment in childhood and aggressive or... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/238/8-Reasons-Not-to-Spank-Your-Child/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/238/8-Reasons-Not-to-Spank-Your-Child/ Sun, 30 Apr 2006 04:02:07 -0700 wombat68 You started it--so when your wife finally reports to you that she's pregnant, then it's time to start getting involved. Pregnancy is daunting for men, I know, I am one.  It's hard to get... Pregnancy is daunting for men, I know, I am one.  It's hard to get...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/237/Dads-Get-involved-early/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/237/Dads-Get-involved-early/ Fri, 12 May 2006 15:38:48 -0700 wombat68 I don't think compulsory training is the way to go with parents, or newly weds for that matter. But I would certainly support people who get counselling in both areas. Parenting has life-time... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/235/Authority-Learning-to-lead-your-kids/#212794 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/235/Authority-Learning-to-lead-your-kids/#212794 Fri, 28 Apr 2006 18:10:01 -0700 wombat68 Many, if not most people, have never had to lead other people when they become parents.  That might be because you are young, have never had the opportunity or desire to be a leader. ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/235/Authority-Learning-to-lead-your-kids/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/235/Authority-Learning-to-lead-your-kids/ Fri, 28 Apr 2006 17:50:23 -0700 wombat68 I agree that tag clouds don't make sense and take up too much room on the home page, and also clutter the design! WOmbat http://www.minti.com/members/claycook/blog/164659/Do-you-use-the-Tag-Cloud/#164660 http://www.minti.com/members/claycook/blog/164659/Do-you-use-the-Tag-Cloud/#164660 Thu, 27 Apr 2006 22:47:55 -0700 wombat68 Psychologically, children can get very worried and stressed about producing something on the toilet. Like some people get writer's block, or frightened of heights. There's an uncertainty that... http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/300731/potty-training/#300739 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/300731/potty-training/#300739 Wed, 26 Apr 2006 07:49:43 -0700 wombat68 Kids screaming is a real pain!  And you need to get it sorted out early.  It's just something your kids are trying (a strategy) to gain attention and exert influence in their world. ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/231/Screaming-How-to-make-it-stop/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/231/Screaming-How-to-make-it-stop/ Tue, 25 Apr 2006 20:29:30 -0700 wombat68 Hi, I wondered what you were doing to discipline you kids and what age they are? http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/300748/screaming/#300750 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/300748/screaming/#300750 Tue, 25 Apr 2006 18:06:28 -0700 wombat68 Time out for fatherhood" - was the leader in the Australian (Dec 2004).  Macquarie Bank managers were sent on a 2-day weekend course with....their sons!  Most of them had never spent... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/225/Spend-time-with-your-kids-before-its-too-late/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/225/Spend-time-with-your-kids-before-its-too-late/ Sun, 23 Apr 2006 08:02:53 -0700 wombat68 An anonymous contributor asked: Having problems conceiving.It was only easy to get pregnant when we were at school!  When we want to do it, nothing seems to work.  I have firends and and... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/222/Conception-Keeping-the-sperm-count-high/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/222/Conception-Keeping-the-sperm-count-high/ Sun, 23 Apr 2006 07:27:51 -0700 wombat68 Have Some Rules and Apply them consistentlyEstablish simple rules and routines for your child. They need to know what they are allowed to do and what they are not allowed to do.  Routine and... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/221/Positive-ways-of-dealing-with-bad-behaviour/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/221/Positive-ways-of-dealing-with-bad-behaviour/ Sun, 23 Apr 2006 07:26:36 -0700 wombat68 I agree, Clay! That was taking things too far. However, I think that children's rights have to be protected. My point was that I think parenting is much more about what we do as parents, than... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/176/Destructive-and-Cruel-behaviour/#212531 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/176/Destructive-and-Cruel-behaviour/#212531 Tue, 18 Apr 2006 00:27:36 -0700 wombat68 We all remember being clipped on the head or backside by our parents.  "Probably deserved it!", we say.  But I think there are good reasons to avoid physical violence in the... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/199/Spanking-Is-it-OK/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/199/Spanking-Is-it-OK/ Sun, 30 Apr 2006 03:52:24 -0700 wombat68 I don't think I've ever seen a parent spank a child when they weren't angry or feeling powerless-- I mean the parents. They are bad circumstances, full of irrational emotional responses to use... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/176/Destructive-and-Cruel-behaviour/#212529 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/176/Destructive-and-Cruel-behaviour/#212529 Mon, 17 Apr 2006 23:02:06 -0700 wombat68 It's very difficult to deal with your lovely child when they are having a tantrum.  My beautiful innocent child!  What is wrong with my baby?  Tantrums and agressive behavior are not... Tantrums and agressive behavior are not...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/198/Bad-Behavior/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/198/Bad-Behavior/ Mon, 17 Apr 2006 18:52:09 -0700 wombat68 In response to your description of a young 16-month boy that is disobedient, out of control, and self-destructive.  What can I do? There are really only two dimensions to the psychological... There are really only two dimensions to the psychological...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/185/Out-of-control-16-month-boy/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/185/Out-of-control-16-month-boy/ Sat, 15 Apr 2006 00:53:26 -0700 wombat68 Telia is one of the largest telecommunication providers in Scandinavia.  In Sweden, Telia encourages all men to take paternity leave for at least 3 months, because it believes that being a... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/184/Parenting-as-leadership-training/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/184/Parenting-as-leadership-training/ Sun, 30 Apr 2006 00:43:52 -0700 wombat68 Children that behave destructively or violently need to learn other behavioural strategies to manage their jelousy and anger.  They need to learn that there are alternatives to physical... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/176/Destructive-and-Cruel-behaviour/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/176/Destructive-and-Cruel-behaviour/ Wed, 12 Apr 2006 05:53:25 -0700 wombat68 Little boys of 6 usually display various forms anti-social behaviour including stealing, disobedience, swearing, etc.  It could be useful to consider the behaviour as a form of control.  He... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/175/6yr-old-Stealing-antisocial-behaviour/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/175/6yr-old-Stealing-antisocial-behaviour/ Wed, 12 Apr 2006 05:15:03 -0700