I’ve always loved Christmas and this year was no exception. My mother has a lavish routine of wonderful set rituals that are followed faithfully. They include heaping mountains of gifts on her children and a filling us with a fabulous Christmas meal eaten at a beautifully decorated table. The only problem is I’m starting to feel a bit slack, as my only real contribution to the whole deal is financial. And I wonder, what rituals will I have pass on?
Apart from only two Christmases when I’ve been away - both times in London - I’ve spent every Christmas in the family home where I grew up. We all turn up on Christmas Eve, watch the televised Christmas carols from the Myer Music Bowl in Melbourne, and drink lots of wine.
In the past few years we’ve added a trip to local Christmas lights spectacular (a street of people in the neighbouring suburb who clearly derive their self-worth from flashing as many lights in as many different shapes in as many different places as possible - but lovely to look at for us voyeurs, nonetheless).
On Christmas morning we exchange enough presents to fill the recycling bin with paper, and then some. Then we have a huge fry up and coffee, scatter for a several hours of stomach recovery, and reassemble in the latter part of the day for a meal of turkey, ham and all the extras (being a vegetarian, Mum also makes me my own special dish). There is wine, champagne, desserts and the obligatory bon-bons.
Christmas night is decidely lacking in energy. This year we all lounged about watching Superman Returns, one by one popping off to bed during the drawn-out show as our stamina deserted us.
In the past three years my son has been added to the mix but it’s really only been this year that he’s ‘got’ the whole present thing. He’s still playing with his Fantastic Four and Spiderman action figures that Santa bought, most of every day.
But the thing is - I can’t expect my Mum to do all thing forever, can I? The cleaning, the cooking, the buying - everything that makes our Christmas what it is.
But on the other hand, the thought if even attempting such an extravaganza sends me into a cold sweat. I mean I don’t even really know how to use my oven! Perhaps the whole tradition will leap frog me and pass straight over to my younger sister. There’s nothing wrong with my son forever associating Christmas with his Nanna or Aunty’s house, is there?
It seems that my mother’s wonderful Christmas rituals are going to have as much chance of being passed onto me as her talents of piano playing, sewing, and gardening.
But so long as I keep the toys coming (or so long as Santa does!), I’m sure my son won’t mind. I just asked him what his favourite part of Christmas was. He replied: “When Santa brought me the Green Goblin!”