Hello krisikin,

I have been where you are, and I know how you are feeling. It's ok, there is no need to be worried, even if your little girl does turn around a c section is not the end of the world, I had one and I tell you it's not as bad as they make out.

Also about the overprotecting thing... I was exactly the same, I thought I wouldn't let anyone touch my baby but it turned out that I wasn't like that at all, I was so proud of my boy that I loved it when everyone was fussing over him!

So again, don't worry, everything will be fine, it will be over before you know it and you will have a gorgeous little girl to call your own!

Hope this helped to ease your mind a little!

Hi,    There is probably nothing anyone can say or do that is going to put your mind totally at ease, however I have had 7 children and as it got closer to the time of birth, the horrible thoughts of what has to happen (like it or not) would be there. What I used to do to help me get through it was to tell myself, I have put up with being pregnant for 9 months, the birth will be over in a matter of hours (just have to brace myself at that time), but the rewards at the end of it all is a beautiful baby is what to focus on no matter how it arrives, it will give you a special someone that is truly yours forever and will love you unconditionally forever no matter what.

So the message is think of the rewards, and that you will live on, with a new special little being that will help you through it all and not dwell on what might or might not happen, yes prepare yourself for the worst and then if IF it happens you will be prepaired so it won't seem like a problem because you are prepared. (and often if you prepare for the worst it doesn't happen).

     As far as being too protective isn't that what we are Parent/Guardian for, to protect an inocent child, the thing we have to remember as they get older, is that they need to create or grow to their own caracter, we cannot mould them to live exactly how we want then to, and if we try we could acctually destroy their own caracter, and so they will always be reliant on others, not stand on their own merits, we have to let them become them, not our puppet.   I hope you can understand what I am trying to say here.    the same as you they have an individual spirit and will do thing a little different to their parents the same as you have.    All we can do is guide them as best we can with what we have and allow them to be a free spirit to choose their walk in life to a degree.    To keep a bird in the hand, you first have to feed it and let it free and it will always return.

Congradulations just enjoy what you are about to receive as many can't even have a child of their own, I feel very lucky to have been blessed with so many, now I am a grandma of 22 and my newest is due in 2 1/2 weeks, and at the moment I feel for my daughter as I do for you knowing what has to come before the pleasure of something special can take place.     Keep your head up, look everyone in the eye and say I can and will do this and I am going to be fine, despite what anyone says, I am me and nothing and nobody can change that, it take all kinds to make up this world and you have as much right as anyone else her and to be you.

Cheers to all new mums as we are all strong enough to do this that is why we were given the role.

Hi, i think we all get a little scared and have thoughts like that. I'm 24 weeks pregnant and to help me through the birth process and to'manage' any thought, feelings or expectations around labour and birth , i hired a doula. Overall someone who can hlepme remain calm and radiate calmness.

once you have your baby you;ll be fine. take your time to come to grips with this life changing event and do what's right for you and your baby at the time.

Good luck!

We all get scared and anxious about the births, you must do  what feels best for you, when your in labour you proberly wont care which way she comes out, as long as she's healthy. When you are ready to let someone else look after your baby start with your mum, sister or someone you trust and just go for a quick coffee, you will be fine, all these things will come to you at your own pace. dont do anything you are not comfortable with, good luck

i now it is a hard thing to do but you need to relax and be prepared to have a Cesar if needed. i was scared for my first and then for my second i was more relaxed and i found the birth alot easier.

you will be protective over your little bundle of joy but you will relax when you and your baby feel the time is right and let somebody look after them for a little break to go to the shops or just to have some you time. you both will need it and only you will know when the time is right. 

(hope this has helped to put your mind at some ease). and good luke all will be fine on the big day

Do you mean you already have one child and are scared about a second birth?  LOL I was a bit nervous as my first had a few difficulties - also, I remembered vividly the feeling as the head crowned and that worried me a bit.

If you already have a little girl - how old is she?  It's your right as a Mum to do what you think is best, and don't worry about what others' say.  On the other hand, you shouldn't be scared to let other people care for her.  Encouraging kids to spend time away from Mum and Dad is good for their confidence and will subliminally reassure her that you will ALWAYS come back for her.  It's also a great way of helping kids become adaptable and accepting that different people do things different ways.

I had the opposite problem - and by the time my son was a year old he would happily sleep at anyones' place if he knew them first - even if he hadn't visited them in their home before!  It kind of made me feel like he was happy to get away from me, but then a lady who had been a daycare Mum for 20 years said she always took that as a sign of a happy child, who was secure knowing Mum would always be there when he got back.  I guess there's always two sides to the coin.  His confidence also came from the fact that he had to go into daycare when he was 9 weeks old, so he was used to being without me for a certain time each week.  He is 14 now and we are very close so it doesn't appear to have damaged our relationship or his confidence.

Regarding birth - What is it that you are specifically scared about?  Having a cesar?  Or the fact that somethig else could go wrong? 

I found first time around, even though my plan was for a natural delivery, preparing myself for the "even slight" possibility that a cesar might be necessary put my mind at rest.  My doctor was aware that I was prepared for this to happen if I or the baby were in any danger or at risk in any way.  He actually said that was very sensible, as some Mums are so determined that nothing can go wrong they refuse to let themselves think of any other option.  so, if a cesar IS necesary when totally unexpected, the Mum can get quite upset and distressed, which then affects the baby too.  I think the thought of an epidural scared me more than the cesar itself which si why I opted for gas and pethadine.

I do remember quite clearly that once I made the decision that I was prepared for it if ened be, I relaxed quite a lot.  In the end I didn't need one, and had two vaginal births with stitches the first time and none the second (daughters' head was a wee bit smaller than sons'  LOL)

So relax, and if you have any specific fears, chat to your Minti friends for reassurance!  I hope this helps!!  Sharon :-)