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Saying "No"

by joburkey

(November 2008) (rank 500+)

As parents, we all need to learn to say no to our kids. this can be tricky, but i've come up with a few strategies that can help...

One thing i do, is that i'll say no to the first request, but then yes to an alternative. This way

they learn that you are the boss but you are also reasonable and can offer alternatives rather than just saying no for the fun of it.

Also i always give my kids a reason, not just "no, because i say so". Kids need to be treated like adults and understand why. and you will be surprised if you give them an explaination watching their faces changes coz they actually understand more than we give them credit for.

Reasoning...You can always make a deal such as, "if you want to stay up for 10 minutes tonight, you need to go to bed 10 minutes early tommorw night. Again, this is being flexible and teaching them about the consequences of their actions.

Hope this helps!

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	February 2009 \| yellowrotar

Re: Saying "No"

this is an important skill to learn early on

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	November 2008 \| Ravenheart

Re: Saying "No"

Yes I agree, give a reason once they are old enuf to understand

xoxo

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	November 2008 \| nabutters

Re: Saying "No"

hey great article.....thanks for sharing

naomi x

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	November 2008 \| spinnychic

Re: Saying "No"

these are great tips....I will be endeavouring to keep trying these to make it all a bit more pleasant as I so dislike the word no....I feel like a control freak and a fun spoiler...But it is necessary and they do need to learn...

Cheers Spinnychic

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	November 2008 \| Kellzacar

Re: Saying "No"

Hi there,

Thanks for your tips on saying "No" . . . I believe that our kids need to learn to accept that the word No means NO. All too often I hear stories from parents that complain that no matter what they say or do thier kids will not listen to them, especially when they are saying NO . .

One of the tricks that I also use is to get down to thier eye level, I have found that this works really well with my 2 yr old . . If I say NO then I always give a reason and I keep my voice firm but loving . . .

Cheers Kellz

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