No Unfortunatly violence is everywhere in all kinds of realationships I have experienced abussive relationship with a past boyfriend of 3 yrs also.I am 32 yrs old and up untill 5mths ago my mother Verbally & physically abused me yet again only this time it was infront of my 2 children 5 & 3 yrs of age. I'd thought she'd got over that whole power trip I'd thought she'd gotten better but to my horror I was wronge it had been years since she'd last attacked me prior to myself becoming a mother. Since the last attack I & my children have ceased having anything to do with her ignoring her txt's msg's,msg's written on forwarded mail even running into her at a shopping centre - (well I ran the other way all the while she was calling out to my kids!)I have taken the steps towards councilling meanwhile having flashbacks of the abuse my mother put upon me as a child. But now she has the nerve to seek legal repressentation to accessing visitation rights to my children!I know Granparents deserve and have rights too but what about parents and children rights?Surely Granparents who verbally & physically assult devoid their rights?My children seen their Mommy's head get punched in and just about snapped off at the neck What about their rights?Violence is a disgusting diesease that no one should have to indure.Strength be to all who choose the path of peace.

Your story touched me and i admire you for having the courage to share and try to help others.

wishing you all the best

you are a brave strong girl thank you for sharing my heart goes out to you. violence against our kid's should never happen. you have nothing to be ashamed of. HE DOES. babe hold your head high.

                                    hug's to you.

Good on you for speaking up,I understand how hard it is.even as time pases revisiting the experience is still as much of a painful hurdle as it was wene accured just remember you are a beautiful person who deserves to be treated with love and respect.

great advice thanks for sharing xx

i went through the same thing and it was actually me who changed states to get away from it and he has threatened through people we both now that he will come and take my 2 yr old daughter away from me and kill me blah blah blah i fell for it two years ago not any more i think people need to realise that they thinks it makes them  men to beat on their girl friends but it actually makes them pathetic human beings and dont worry sweetie he will get whats coming to him karma is a wonderful thing

 This is an excellent article and you have reason to be ashamed of writing it, the more awareness of abuse, the more strength you give to people in the same situation to SPEAK UP & SAY I'VE HAD ENOUGH.

It is not easy to break away from abuse and I'm so glad your Mum had the fore-sight and courage to stand up and do something on your behalf.

I wish you will in what ever you do.

Cheers Janice

thank u for sharing your story, i too have suffered similar situation. your advice will certainly help people in similar situations......

naomi xx

Dear Author

I hope you don't mind me posting the email I received last week as a comment to correspond with your advice.  I think it is quite relevant and I also feel that it illustrates a big problem in our society that isn't well known.

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Yesterday The White Ribbon Foundation released a report, co-authored by Michael Flood, Research Leader of The Violence Against Women Program, VIC Health and White Ribbon Ambassador, showing more than half a million teenagers are living with violence in the home.

The report[b] An[/b] [b]Assault on Our Future: The impact of violence on young people and their relationships[/b] shows that this violence is having a major impact on the long term health and wellbeing of Australia’s children. 

The report also highlights clear evidence that many boys hold violence supportive attitudes:

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[b]• Nearly one in seven (14%) of boys believe that ‘it’s OK to make a girl have sex with you if she was flirting’[/b]

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[b]• Close to one in three (31%) boys believe ‘it’s not a big deal to hit a girl’[/b]

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[b]• Nearly one in three (32%) boys believe ‘most physical violence occurs because a partner provoked it’[/b]

To read more click here www.whiteribbonday.org.au where you will find the full report including an executive summary and a media release.

The White Ribbon campaign, through the report, gained significant national and local media coverage.

Click here for view the ABC World Today coverage: http://www.abc.net.au/worldtoday/content/2008/s2421741.htm

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[b]It’s NOT too late to order ribbons and wristbands![/b]

Go to [b]www.whiteribbonday.org.au[/b] and click on [b]‘Buy White Ribbons Online’[/b].

[b]Jay Richardson, Ambassador Coordinator[/b]

jay@whiteribbonday.org.au / 02 9453 1811

Unfortunately that isn't surprising at all when you look at these recent statistics from Ireland, it seems that many young males are stuck in the dark ages along with their fathers.  I also received results of a recent survey of young men in Australia at work on Wednesday and their attitude about violence toward women was extremely alarming.  Here is one article I found on it, with almost 1 in 3 young males thinking it is ok to hit women in certain circumstances and worse... Support White Ribbon Day and encourage people like this author to speak out and draw attention to this discraceful attitude in our so-called equal and modern world.

you had me in tears, i dont just understand, i feel it with you. i didnt suffer at the hands of a boyfriend, but at the hands of my uncle. i hope you get your life back on track, i did. i know deep down my uncle thought he's gotten the better of me, but i showed him that i could better myself. today i have a family of my own & through hardship, i managed to completed my bachelors of commerce degree and i'm holding my chin up. i always say, "i refused to let the past guide my future, the biggest revenge is to live a good life" all the best to you, hun

Hi there!

I know how you feel! I have been there myself but at a young adult... The man still to this day scares me and the sight of him makes me shake i almost wee myself its that bad! Because of this horrible experience i have brought alot of baggage into the realationship which makes my life very difficult.

Im glad that you had the guts to come out a speak and share with us all...The last time i shared my story i was asked lots of questions like why did i stay and why did i let him do that to me???? I couldnt answer them and still today im not sure why i stayed so long but then again i realise wen i see him down the street.

Im so proud of you and so glad that this gutless human is out of your life.You are a strong and lovable person and never let anyone tell you otherwise.

You know where to find me if ever need to talk...

Hugs Tee

 Thank you so much for sharing something so difficult so others can benefit from what you learned the hard way. You're a strong woman to have overcome what you did. If you ever need to talk though, look me up. 

excellent advice/ article i have been through the same thing and i understand what you mean about how good it is to get out

and i love that you made sure that last line was there

amazing job