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Autism 24/7 ; A perspective to coping and staying sane! |
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by tina72  (November 22nd) (rank 500+) |
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It is hard to know where to start in such a complex and difficult subject. Not only is it difficult to adequately describe what is like to live with autism, but it is also very, very personal. No two children with an autism spectrum disorder will be a carbon copy
of any other child! This can make one feel very alone, like a modern day David battling the Goliath! Apart from generic advice, no person can tell you how best to manage this disorder in your child - because it comes down to your own ability to recognise and become profficient at working with the problems that arise, rather than against them.
I can let you know that having my son diagnosed with autism was a blend of relief ( because I was right in thinking something was wrong and it wasn't just me imagining things.) and fear, because I had no idea what this might mean for my child. It's only to be expected that diagnosis will trigger any number of emotional responses and all of them are equally valid.It is a confronting and challenging thing to FACE!
I found that, after being extremely upset and fearful of my ability to do what I needed to do for my child, I went into a kind of state that let me only respond to what was immediately happening. Trying to come up with everyday solutions took up almost all of my waking moments. Melding my other children into day to day life and creating a way for everyone to feel valued was and still is, a priority. This never stops.
But you do find that you become more able to adjust with the flow. You learn that some battles are worth fighting and others are not ( just like all other parents!) Most of all you fall in love with this precious child and they make you love all of your children and all other children for the amazing quality of just being who they are. It reminds me of the quote by Loius Pasteur ; ' When I approach a child, (s)he inspires me in two sentiments : tenderness at what (s)he is, and respect for what (s)he may become."
Never give up the good fight. Remember that life isn't what you are waiting for - it is what you have now! Learn to be kind to yourself and being kind to others will then follow. Most of all, love your children. The washing or cleaning will still be waiting for you - but your children won't.
Yours in Love and peace,
Tina.
