Re: nosey neighbours
Asked by anxiousmom

Question:
 

 i have these real nosey set of neighbours,two families who are each others best buddies who are real pests.?

They act as though they care abt evryone also...they are so nosey,in the pretence

that they care,they ask soo many questions and gossip around that news to all...now im worst hit,as one of them stay right next to me.im so tired of her snooping around me,what i do,what i wear,where i send my kid to,what time my hubby comes home etc..she is ALWAYS outside,either in d front yard or in d back yard...my hubby says to ignore them and shifting houses is not an option...but im not able to ignore her..i hate it when she asks my 3 yr old kid questions abt where we went last night n so on..and then she also asks me the same thing..now i also cannot be rude to her..as she is my next door neighbour and god alone knws when i may need something or whatever and anyways it hard to be rude to someone u see everyday,every minute or whatever! im tired of being watched,heard and asked questions...i knw she talks abt me to others,so if im rude,it will just get worse..she shows concern too,so its hard for others or even me to avoid her.some people actually like her bcos she gives out news n gossip.how do i deal with this?

My Advice:

Only give out information that you want to give out. Like another member said bore them with stories of your day and when they interupt talk over the top of them and keep talking about yourself ignoring any story they have to say. So if they start telling you about something they did don't interact on the story just go back to talking about yourself and make it as boring as possible they will soon get sick of you. They will also gossip about you no matter what so I wouldn't worry about it. They obviously have no life that's why they are so interested in your life. The best one is to start talking about your sex life they will soon want to change the subject or better still ask them about theirs they will soon start to leave you alone. Don't ever fall for the come over for a cuppa or they will never leave you alone or even if they want to borrow something just say no I'm lending it to someone else or I don't have that. When you come out the door and they try to start a conversation just make out you are in a real hurry with a piece of toast in your mouth and a quick hello and I've got to go. When you come home again a quick hello and I better go and get tea on you don't have to be rude just short and sweet.