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4.58 (Highly recommend) from 17 votes (755 Visits)

Stranger Danger

by mcm

(August 2006) (rank 5th)

I wanted to share the conversation I had with my daughter.
My girl said to me "Can I go to the park all by myself?" I tried to explain to her that she is too young, to which she replied, "I am a big girl". Its not that

I don't trust her, its that i can't trust anyone else. I thought this gives me the opportunity to talk to her about stranger danger.
I asked her these scenario questions;

What would you do if someone talked to you when I am not with you?
What would you do if someone tried giving you lollies?
Or promised you never ending ice cream?
Or let you pat their puppy that was at their house? (So you have to go away with them.)
What would you do if someone grabbed you?
What would you do if they tried to put you in a car?

I was quite impressed by her responses. She mostly said, "I will say 'No thankyou'" and "I will stamp on their feet" I told her what I was told as a child - If someone tries to grab you, yell out 'This is not my mum", or "This is not my Dad"
When I was at school I remember being taught about stranger danger. But I think these days children are less likely to be out on their own til they are much older. I was 5 or 6 when i used to go wandering around. I wouldn't let my girl (she is 6 now) go anywhere on her own.

I know my girl is growing up and wanting to be independant. I am trying to arm her with knowledge because one day I wont be there. She asked me today if she could walk all the way to school by herself. I am not ready for her to do that but one day.

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	December 2007 \| emmie

Re: Stranger Danger

BRILLIANT you dealt with this so very well and it is also brilliant advice

thanks for sharing

Cheers

Emz x

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| August 2007 \| merlin0903

Re: Stranger Danger

great advice, and well handled,

it is a shame that we can no longer feel safe for our children to do these little things, at the moment we are thinking how on earth will we teach our little man about this, even though he is only 18months, but he will talk to anyone and hold anyone's hand or even get cuddles from anyone, so at least now i know were i can come for a simple list of questions that are straight to the point,

thanks again and i am sure that this has helped a few mums and dads out there

hugs and kisses

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| January 2007 \| peachynowamum

instead of yelling this is not my mum or dad

get them to yell fire fire fire to get every1s attention then she can say help this is not my mum or dad..... I am just saying this because a lot of poeple dont take notice of other children or women yelling... As too many have cried wolf in the past...... besides more attention drawn to the situation the better......

Otherwise fantastic advice...........

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| November 2006 \| susan4god

Stranger Danger

It is great advice but even when we are there with them they are not alway safe.

I will give you an example of what happened to my daughter and I last year. We were at a large Christmas Party for children with special needs and we had stoped to find out where the line for us to get our lunch was Itook my eyes off her for no more than 2 minutes and she was looking at her gift that she had recieved when she felt someone pull her by the sleeve so without looking up out of her present she started walking off with the person. When I looked around she was gone and I could not see her. I called out to her and fortunatly she was within hearing distance and looked up and saw a strange man had hold of her and she screamed and ran away.

Praise the lord she was not hurt but it has taken nearly a year for her to have the confidence to go back to the same place again but in future I won't be taking my eyes off her when we are in a large crowd and I know she feels the same.

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	4.00 (Good) \| August 2006 \| apwed

good advice

certainly good advice... i remember when i was 11yrs old i had to walk to junior primary pick up my 5yr old brother bring him home now my son is 11 there is no way would let him walk home alone with my 5 yr old daughter it is amazing how things have changed since we were kids...

the other thing that makes it hard is when you are at the shops all the people that stop and chat to your kids at the shop... i say to my five year old that it is only okay to speak to a stranger if she has asked me first... or the teacher when she is at school... if there is no adult around that she doesnt know then she needs to find adult she does know first before speaking to the stranger.. though it is very hard as she will tell anyone who will listen her life story

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	4.00 (Good) \| August 2006 \| TheMentorMom

Scary Topic

Scary topic, isn't it? Good for you for having the discussion with your daughter. I saw a child safety expert on tv once who advised parents to tell their children to be wary of adults that ask children for help outside their parents presence, i.e., at the park, etc. I've discussed this with my kids and told both of them that if a stranger approaches them and asks them for help in any way to come find a safe adult immediately. The adult can then determine if the stranger is safe and truly in need of assistance.

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	4.00 (Good) \| August 2006 \| Izzy

stranger danger

Those are good stuff. I also heard that while it's good to teach kids about the dangers of talking to strangers, it is also important not to have children too scared because if somethign happens to them without their parents, who else would they go to for help but a complete stranger? I heard that teaching children to approach women (a woman with a kid, preferrably), in general, is a good practice if they find themselves alone and in trouble.

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	3.29 (Average) \| August 2006 \| mcm

stranger danger - good point

That is a good point - teach your young child to approach a woman with a child or a person uniform eg. security guard or police officer or even a shop assistant.

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	4.54 (Excellent) \| August 2006 \| JadieLady

Your a brave lady :) i didn't want to leave my brother at daycare- i wanted stay with him to make sure he wouldnt get lost or hurt. i know- im a worrywart. thats why i makea decent mum :) ( i wont say im a good mum- i beleive everyone is in their own right and don't want to seem like i put myself and my skills above anyone elses)

The questions are really good- and you daughter sounds like she knows where shes going and how to get there ;)

We used to play the phone number name game. basicaly it is just a rhyme of their name and the phone number. hopefully never to be used. my brother did use it when he got lost once though :) proved to be useful!

my names is -----

151413131654

15164654

thats my phone number!

jsut in case anythign ever does happen- kids often know how to use a phone- but not their own phone number :)

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	4.00 (Good) \| August 2006 \| mcm

:) telephone

That is something I am still trying to teach my daughter - her ph number and how to use the phone in an emergency. She is still learning her address.

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	4.07 (Good) \| August 2006 \| nomes

really scarey stuff

mcm, this is a topic that I have been addressing lightly with my son. These points will really help my concerns about scaring him to bits. thank you

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