Excuse my ignorance, but why is saying "I'm sorry" so horrible?  I can understand why saying "It'll be ok", "I know how you feel", and "at least you can get pregnant again" are just downright insensitive and deserve a slap in the face, but I don't understand why sharing in the sorrow is so bad?  If you can't say "I'm sorry", what can you say?  My sister recently lost a baby, and at first I was lost for words, but when I did finally speak, and shared that I was in fact sorry that it had happened, she didn't seem insulted or hurt.  She's my sister, and we're allowed, and are supposed to share in each others' joys and sorrows. 
 

Hi there, I have had three miscarraiges and I agree that is always the last words you want to hear. There is also the words "It'll be o.k.  and I know how you feel. Even if they have had a miscarriage no 2 people react the same. You have your own circumstances and way of dealing with it. Just let them know you are there for them whether it is a shoulder to cry on,, a buddy to get drunk with or cup of coffee. Take in a funny movie. Don't avoid the subject but don't dwell on it. Just be up front and ask what she would like from you and I am sure she will be only to happy to let you know. That's what good friends are for. Good Luck

Kath