Re: Pregnant and still Breastfeeding
Asked by sezza11

Question:
 

My son is 13 months and i am pregnant with number 2, i am still breastfeeding him as a sleeping tool ii have tried controlled crying for no longer than 15 minutes as

he gets histerical and i am worried that i won't be able to manage feeding a newborn and my toddler at the same time, it has all been brought up by my mother in law who said now i have to wean because i can't feed the two, i  am loving breastfeeding and don't find it annoying yet, i can have him asleep in 5 minutes with a feed as apposed to an afternoon of stress and crying, am i crazy to think i can do this in a western society?? i feel sick to the stomach that we have perhaps fallen pregnant to early and i will feel like i have twins, i am really bothered by the mother inlaw and i don't know why i care so much about what she thinks he does not sleep through the night but will sleep most nights until about 4 am. i can't leave him with anyone!  HELP!!

My Advice:

Relax! If you believe things happen for a reason just go with the flow!  Trust your instincts! Do what makes you feel good and try not to take others advice personally (especially the mum in laws!)! I was suprised when I found out I was pregnant with a 6mth yr old! I found she naturally weaned herself a few mths later but was prepared to go longer! If you get peace why stop if your happy? You will learn that each mum is different & does what works for her if she wants to have some sanity at the end of the day! When my son was 14mths(& still breastfeeding) I took him to a sleep clinic for the day to help me learn how to control cry with their specialised support! Within a week he was sleeping through & not waking at 3am.I was referred for free from my local baby clinic! You may want to think about someone or some group(daycare for eg) he can go to if it helps but otherwise it sounds like it's all pretty normal for your 1st child. I overheard after the birth of my son(1stborn) from a nurse to the girl beside me(mum of 2) "that you become a mum with the 1st & you are a mum by the second" It's pretty true! Have the self confidence to believe that you are doing the best for your kids(even when you don't have the foggiest!) and if you get worried don't think twice about professional advice(ie health clinic) & you'll be told once again not to be upset by mum in laws for eg & should get the appropraiate HELP for anything on your mind! Believe in yourself(even if u do have pregnant brain!)! I wish you health and happiness which r the 2 things most important to me!Caz