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by peace613  (January 2009) (rank 500+) |
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Re: Need to fall in love with my girl again :(
anonymous
Question:
My little girl is almost 3 and I am finding it hard to "enjoy" her. I am a sole care-giver most of the time and have only one other person
who can come to my aide occassionally. We read a story at bedtime, but everything else is quick (such as bathtime) and where I tell her frequently to go play with her toys. I tickle her and occassionally sing nursery rhymes, but these only last so long. I have one other younger child, so I find it hard to have quality time with them where I love just being with them and don't try and get them to play so I can do something. I find myself longing for "my-time" frequently during the day, which makes me feel horrible cause I feel like I would rather be doing something I enjoy than interacting with my kids. How do I get back to when I used to just enjoy being around my kids, rather than feeling like motherhood is a burden and a duty? (I feel horrible saying this, but it's my honest feelings). My daughter also seems to be ready for toilet training, but I am dreading this because of all the extra work involved.
My Advice:
I understand perfectly. Everyday there is so much to do and you feel like there is never enough time. The children get pushed aside and house work, regular work, sleeping and eating all come first.
I found my solution in a book, acctually 2 books. The first book was How to Win Friends and Influence People and the second book was The Total Woman. Interestingly they both had a solution called the "Something
dollar plan"
The way that the plan works is that you
1. Write down all that you need to do in a day. (This includes play time and a nice relaxing time for you.)
2. Number them in importance. 1 for the most important.
3. Do each job until it is done. Finishing each job means it is fully done and you no longer have to worry about it.
4. Don't worry if somethings do not get done. You did the most you could today. Now put the rest on the list for tomorrow.
Our daily plan includes home schooling. We work in 30 min intervals. School 30 min. Play/clean/relax/walk for 30 min.
Making your own schedule will help you have time. To be able to enjoy the time that you have with your little one.
Try :
1. Writing down all the things that you like about her.
2. Tell her 1 thing that she does well every time that she walks into the room.
3. Make discipline quick and always end with a hug.
4. Teach her a game that you like.
I hope this is helpful.
Peace613
