i hope this helps

Re: ex in laws?visitation
anonymous

Question:
 

my ex and were on reasonable terms but hes recently asked for mediation for our child because of an argument and he has decided he wants her more often (friday till tuesday) he lives an hour half

away and has never picked up or dropped off our daughter to school before.

some very hurtful things have been said about where i live and what school she goes to and that he doesnt like her living with me anymore

i will set up mediation  but i have always just given him and his family visitation when they ask for it and he often cancels at the last minute or changes his plans, there is no specific drop off or pick up time so mediation might be good for that? he will never change plans for me no matter how important. most weekend he has her every second weekend from fri till sunday.

i know his mother will be calling next week to ask to take our daughter for a few days, i have already given my ex alot of this christmas holidays because hes had time off work so what do i do when she calls?

do i continue to organise visits with his family (i do quite a bit right now) or should they organise their visits through my ex on the times mediation states are his? i feel at the moment i am going to be giving her up all the time and its very upsetting for me.

sorry this is so long but please i need some advice

My Advice:

hi sorry your having problems but my friend had the same problem and her lawyer told her to keep a diary about every thing, phone calls, late or early to pick up kids and drop kids off ,change weekends, whatever the father said to the children that was nasty. One weekend he rang her and said im keeping the kids your not getting them back and when she went back to court to get the kids back the diary helped her get custody of her kids. I dont know if this helps but good luck. I have been told Its quicker to get residental custody that states the child is to live with you than full custody.Im not sure if its true maybe ask your lawyer.