Re: teen pregnancies
Asked by DEBBIE-69

Question:
 

my teenager was told by doctors that she was unable to have children, so they put her on the pill to regulate her periods. After a year they told her to go off the pill.

Now she is 2 months pregnant. She thought we would be mad at her. I'm not is that wrong of me?

My Advice:

 

 

Hi,

I think the best thing IS to be supportive. She will need you now more than ever. I do not personally agree with having relations out of marriage and teach my children so. But, with that said just like any other lesson in life once it's done it's done. There is no point in throwing a fit or being upset.

After all the baby feels all the anxiety that the mother feels and will be what you all make it. She will now have to work harder than ever before. She will also have to deal with judgmental people who think that they are perfect and want to point out everyone else’s mistakes.

Really, we all have things that we would did not occur and I believe that having a baby should not ever be regretted.

Supporting her is a wise and loving decision or reaction. You'll have a grandchild that you never thought that you would have. That is exciting!!!!

Plus you will see and already have I'm sure, your daughter grow up real quick. This is sad in a way but then could be exactly what pushes her to make really great decisions now and later.

I would suggest that you continue to support her and help her out. Teach her or send her to classes about parenthood. Read books with her and help her with whatever decisions that she makes. One really great point in not being upset with her is that she will come to you more often for advice. This is great. Teens need an adult to help then make great decisions. Scientifically the brain is not finish developing yet and so cause and effect do not always come to the for front of the teens' mind.

I've know many teen mothers and at this day and time many people do. Some with mothers who were supportive and others who were not. One mother left her daughter totally. This left her sad and on even worse times than before. My mom took her in and helped her on her feet. Now she is a professional legal secretary but never speaks to her mom. My mom is who she calls.

As one other comment mentioned if you don't support her she will find someone to support her and you will just have to hope that they do as well as you would have. You made the right choice. I don't see any other.

Support, support, support, but don't be pushy.

I hope this is helpful,

Peace613