Re: Toilet Trainin Tantrums
Asked by Breebee10

Question:
 

Hi, I have a 2 and a half year old son named James, he is generally a really happy good behaved child  but now that the potty training has come on the scene

he has done a backflip and is acting out whenever he can. I am really struggling to try and get him to come to me if he needs to use the potty instead of doing it in his nappy or worse yet on the floor when he doesn't want his nappy on. He swaps and changes how he feels about the potty a lot as well. He sometimes wants to always use it and others isnt interested. Anyone been through the same or similar thing and has a little advice as to how i can get my lil cutie using the toilet???

My Advice:

Although not as severe, my daughter also did a backflip on me.  I was told that most kids will use the potty nd become dry in there own time, however, that doesn't mean you cn't give any guidence. 

These are my suggestions (member advice can be used or thrown it is whatever works best that you should do)

Start by making a chart with your little boy.  Do this by selecting a photo, getting a good size of cardbourd and some colouring in pencils/texters, glitter, whatever takes your family.  If your little man enjoys craft let him join in or if not let him watch.  Use the title I'ma Big boy Now and stick the photo in the middle of the card.  Get some star stickers (or whatever stickers your son will enjoy) .  Explain that each time he sits on the potty he can put one sticker anywhere on the chart, each time he does something he can put two.  Put it up on the toilet wall where he can see it.

If your little cutie still refuses to go, start taking him (or if you are uncomfortable a male member of the family can do this) whenever you go.  Offer him to "copy" you.  This has two benefits; a he can get the idea and b he will form a routine.  Standing up and target practice generally seems to come later.

Sometimes when I am running a bath, I'll get my chidren to sit on the potty in the bathroom while the water is going and talk to me and I often get results without fuss.

Member praising boosts a childs confidence 100%.  Make a big deal of it when he sits on the potty.  Make an even bigger deal of it when he achieves something.  Support him;  when there is an accident, let him know that he should of gone to the toilet.  Then say it's ok give a hug and suggest you both clean it up cause accidents happen.  I find that by not getting cross because of the mess and concentrating on the fact my little one may be embarrassed tend to relax him/her and she learns more willingly.

My daughter runs off laughing and giggling when I want to put a nappy on her.  I tell  her tha bottom tickler will get her and she better come back.  It works for her.

Overall best wishes and good luck.  Mummy Crystal