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Single "Dadding".... |
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by JohnV  (February 2009) (rank 500+) |
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As a single father of three children, things can get a bit crazy, as it does even with two parents.
As my children are aged 12, 13 and16, they are obviously at that age where they want to be,or feel, independant.....but of course we as parents like to keep
a "safety umbrella" over them. This "umbrella" hopefully protects them from physical, psychological and social harm.
The best way to get co-operation from the kids in almost all aspects of their lives, is to allow them to at least FEEL like they are making some of these decisions about themselves, FOR themselves.
As they get a little older, they begin to make the right decisions, but by making my kids feel like part of a "decision making team", I have managed to turn what was becoming terrible "anger" after our separation, into a much more constructive outlook on life.
Whilst the kids still have their arguments and little fights, they now prefer to collaborate in many ways.. and this method works with younger children too. A single Mum friend of mine recently separated and had similar behavioural problems with her two eldest ( 8 years old and 7 years old). Happily, these two "terrors" now play and live quite happily together, as they are part of Mum's "team" !
