Sometimes I think to myself I would really like to raise my kids myself, but unfortunately, we dont all have that priviledge and need to rely on creche's on daymothers. I tried a creche, but unfortunately, 1 of my daughters ended up with a fracture skull, which they still gave

us no explanation for. I stayed out of work to make sure my daughter was alright and eventually she was. Others think it is easy for us to close the door behind us in the morning or evening, whichever shift we work, but its not. I call home every hour or so, just to check that my girls are ok. They are lucky to have their aunt looking at them at home now, until I can find something else. Many think that money is what drive us. well, in all honesty, what i earn is not nearly enough, but somehow bills need to be paid and my children need to eat. I'd rather earn an honest living and work hard what what i get, than to go around and beg or steal. I've heard I am selfish, not looking after my own children. My advice to others, would be to stop judging, what works for you, doesnt work for somebody else. We all make our own choices and need to respect people regardsless. I have to get up early in the morning, but every evening when I get home from work, my sister is waiting at the bus stop with them, they get so excited, even though they are so young, they know its mommy. They know I love them, which i told them since day 1 & i make every effort to spend as much time with them. they are priority in my life. once we get home, I make and feed their dinner. I spend individual time with them, then with both of them, I am the one that tucks them in before they sleep. Weekends, i make a point of spending as much time with them as I can. Even if it means doing teh washing Friday evening while they are sleeping, I do that, because after they had their bath and breakfast, we go for a walk, play or just get into a taxi or bus for a drive. Sunday mornings they go to church with me, we then spend the rest of the day together. Its so important that regardless what we do, we need to make our children feel important and wanted. They should feel that mom is so happy to be able to spend time with us and to this day, the expression on their face when they see me, thats priceless