my friend and i had a topic the other day about a TV program, where, after about 15 years into democracy, some doctors have 2 entrances and waiting rooms. 1 for white (European/caucasean), another for non-whites. it was sad. In our country, you are classed as white, black, coloured or

asian. for some reason or another, i fall into the coloured group. also stay in that community. my dad was mixed (coloured and black), mom as well (jewish white and coloured) my husband is half German, half coloured, but he passes as white, coz he looks white. i noticed that racism is still very alive in some areas.  my husband and i went to a takeaway place that sell fried fish and chips. i ordered, but the lady didnt take note of me. they usually have counterhands that assist you, but she helped my husband and even prepared his order, i'm telling you, we bought from this place for years and its the first time i see that they give serviettes. my husband received 5 star service. we went to a few other shops where i walked in before my husband, but he was helped first! all coz he's fairer skinned. i'm not that dark myself, bit of an olive skin. the worst is, we go walking with our 11 month old twins and people will ask where the mother is, coz they look exactly like their dad. if i go out with them alone, they always ask me where's the mother or if its difficult looking after them, if the mother's working, that sort of thing. i usually laugh it off. my friend has it worse. she is a black girl. mostly if u go up country, u receive this treatment. if a black person ask for a public toilet, they will say they dont have 1, seconds later, a white person comes from the toilet. its sad that u go to 1 of the restaurants at a garage. u and your black friend walk in, where majority is white. people start looking uneasy, picking up and clutching their bags or the waitress coming over and telling u the table u r sitting at is reserved! well, i'm not saying it happens everywhere, but it does happen. i know, depending on where we go, my children will 1 day ask what they are classified as. the best thing we can teach our children, is to treat all people the way u want to be treated, not to judge anybody by the colour of their skin. it is not fair to anybody to be put in a box and classified as some or other race. all people are just people, no matter where they are from or what they do for a living. life is too short to have space in your life for hatred, grudges and racism. we are all so wonderfully made, cant we just be happy and try to get along?