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Weather you are ttc your first, last, or any in between, here is some of my advice...
I have currently been ttc for 14 months now, and I know pretty well how hard it can be to conceive. Although, there are so many other who have been trying much longer than I have. I just wanted to share some advice that I have come to realize and wish I would have realized in the beginning.
1. MOST IMPORTANTLY: Be patient! Getting frustrated, is only going to make everything seem more difficult. Just understand that things don't always happen like you plan and you can't FORCE yourself to get pregnant, you just have to wait for it to happen.
2. Join a message board, or have a close support group ready. Trying to get pregnant can be one of the most trying times in your life, and relationship, if you have people around you who know exactly what you are going through it really helps, so if you don't have a close group of friends who are ttc as well, I would recommend joining an online message board, there are Trillions out there that are geared directly at ttc, so the women DO know exactly what you are going through and are ready to support.
if this is you now, feel free to visit: http://s12.invisionfree.com/The_Ladies_Room/index.php?act=idx . This is a message board that I have created, and it is geared diractly at ttc. Feel free to sign up and stay a while, just let me know that you came from here! (my name is stephanie by the way)
3. Don't expect your husband or significant other to support you the whole way. Mine did and continues to do so which is absolutely more that I could ever ask but most men don't understand all the terminology nor do they understand what is going on with the womens body, so this reflects back to advice #2. Most of them just understand when you say it is time to do "BUSINESS" as we call it, or whatever choice of words you choose, to describe your personal intimacy!
4. Expect it NOT to happen right away. Most women set them selves up for disappointment when they expect to get pregnant right away and it doesn't happen. If you understand that it may take a while then you will not be disappointed and will have less of a chance of getting frustrated.
5. Have fun with it. Once you do it so long you get tired of being forced to be intimate when you don't want to. Just do it when you feel the time is right and when you are in the mood, don't force yourself, it will make you stressed out and is not good for anyone!
Have fun and I wish you the best of luck!
(August 2006) (
We have only being ttc for a couple of months but already it seems to have turned in to a chore so thank you for the advice, I will certainly be putting some of it into practise and I'm sure things will be fun again.
