I'm beginning to think my son has recovered from ADHD after all

We just had a three day break from his medication

And we are both still standing

Not only that we are both still smiling!!!

He is so proud of himself

And so am

I !!!!!

A few days ago, my youngest came to me and said he didn't need his tablets anymore, he had prayed and asked God to take away the ADHD so he was healed!!

It was a sweet moment actually, but I talked to him about it and we decided that, as fantastic as that was, it would be better for us to keep up with the medication and try and see how we coped on a weekend when he was home with me, rather than have any setbacks at school

Fortunately this was a three day weekend so he certainly got tested!!

I can't say it was without hiccup, there were a few occasions when I needed to pull him aside and calm him down and distract him

Our Faith that God can make him better was a great place for us to start.

Each time that I could see his excitement level or anger level rising, I would take him to one side and we would talk it through, I would ask him to explain how he was feeling at that moment, we discussed if he thought he was in a "safe" zone for his emotions or getting close to "danger" he would recognise that he was stepping close to 'danger" so I then poured positivity onto him. I would re iterate what a fantastic young man he was, how I believe he is perfect, how I wouldn't change a thing about him, how loved he was, how he always manages to make me smile, how he is gentle and loving, how he has a great and cheeky sense of humour.........

It wouldn't take long before the frown once again became a smile and all was fine and calm once again.

My poor little man  endured years before his diagnosis of ADHD of being constantly put down, frequently being called "stupid" being told repeatedly that he was a "pain in the neck" he was given the nickname of "donkey" his dad thought it was an affectionate petname, my son saw it as another put down. No matter what he did he was called a "clumsy oaf" Yes he could be a bit clumsy, he would be the child that would always "accidentally" knock over a drink on the dining table, or drop his plate etc

It would be so frustrating as I would always be making excuses for him and protecting him, yet also getting frustrated myself at this child that couldn't understand the concept of taking things slowly would help him, he was such an impulse driven child that it never occured to him to check where he was putting things or carrying things was  clear . Simple things like going shopping would cause no end of panic as his impulse would have him rushing into a shop to see something he suddenly remembered whilst all thought of telling me where he was going were dismissed, forgotten or didn't even occur. Up to the age of 10 I would still worry wherever he went as his instincts and impulses were that of a toddler.

The diagnosis of ADHD actually came as a relief as I finally had reasons for how he behaved. But now I honestly believe a lot of his symptoms were dramatically influenced by his complete fear of doing the wrong thing when his dad was around. The knowledge that no matter what he did his dad still dismissed him as a pain and hard work, and the painful belief he had that his father never loved him, no matter how hard he tried to be lovable around him.

I would implore all parents, to watch the comments around your children, even if it appears in the shape of light hearted banter, even pet names, anything your child feels as a putdown no matter whether you mean it as a put down stays in their head as a Negative against them.

For every negative comment you send their way, you are planting a seed in their mind of worthlessness. It quickly takes root and once the roots get a grip, you have a huge battle facing you to remove all the negativity of self belief they have in themselves.

Lets make sure that all our children are covered in Positiveness.

I believe my son had ADHD, but I believe it was made all the worse by the negative phrases, feelings and emotions thrown at him.

I believe my son will one day be free from the tag of  ADHD but its going to take ten times the positivity to replace the negativity, as the negative roots are far stronger than the new positive ones I am planting.

I am so proud of him that he has the strength and courage to want to beat this. I know he can do it !!!

Our next target is to cope with no medication over half term holidays at the end of the month