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New Warnings For Moms |
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by Marglr  (May 5th) (rank 21st) |
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As we go through this life it becomes evident that to be a good parent we need so much to be informed. Information is out there and how to sift through it all is some times so over whelming! However, I came across some information that explains so much!
I would love to share this!
I have heard and been part of so many topics of how, when and under what circumstances to let teens date. But this information even answers that old question of what does she see in him that was asked so much when I was in high school. This point is brought up to reflect on the fact that it is an age old problem because I was in high school ages ago! LOL!! Remember that beautiful young girl that attached herself to the guy that every one but her knew would be of no use to her? She hung on to him through thick and thin and only when too many years of hardships came for one reason or the other did they finally part? I have thought long and hard about why this happens. Why does it appear plain as day to everyone but the one involved? Why does talking about it not sway the woman to rethink, re-consider? Why above all common sense does it end up with the woman sacrificing all to make him happy, even foregoing her own happiness?
It seems that we can blame it all on hormones? Easy guess you say??? Maybe, but it seems we woman produce hormones that are very pwerful when we first attach to a given male. These were purposeful when the male needed to protect and provide so many eons ago. There to make bonding and attachments for humans to form families and groups to insure babies were taken care of. These hormones are oxytocin and prolactin.
I always warned my girls to be very careful who they feel in love with! Now I know why! We produce these and they tie our minds to the focus of our desire. So even if they are the worst choice, those powerful drugs our systems produce tell us other wise! We can go against all known factors and deside that the opposite of what we need and want is just what we need and want!!! Imagine! But if we think about it we probably all can think of a match that fits this. So I think we should add this information to what we tell young girls. Maybe knowing can save a disaster! Maybe save some heart break and tears and matching up to the wrong person. If we understand that it is provable in chemistry and scientific fact, could it rescue one lovely young woman from spending her life trying to fix something that wasn't near right in the beginning? I told a Mom this just this week when her daughter was going out at age 16 on her first date. If we arm our daughters with knowledge maybe one heart will be saved from being so unhappy down the road.
