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Your relationship with your partner is the most important thing in keeping your whole family happy-so many times the parents completely forget that they are important too, not just the children. My neighbour asked me the other day some of the things we do to for our relationship, and i
was shocked to find that her & her husband don't do anything alone anymore. Here are some of the things i've found useful:
1. Talk-this is so much easier said than done! Both of us work fulltime, and when we get home and have our boy home from daycare, our nights are busy-cooking,feeding,bathing and playtime all rolled in to a space of a couple of hours. Every night after our boy goes to bed, we sit down and we talk. It could be about our day at work, it could be about an article that we saw on the news that interested us, or we could talk about tomorrow's happenings. Turn off the TV and have a chat!
2. Get some alone time-both together, and alone. I take my baby grocery shopping every saturday with me, and leave my partner home alone to sleep in, relax etc. He in turn gives me a couple of hours to myself, and i sit in my study and read, or go on my minti site, and just relax.
At least once a month, we use the wonderful people called grandparents to take him off our hands for a night, and we either go out for dinner or just bum around at home and enjoy a sleep in! Get out a movie, watch a tv show you both enjoy, whatever takes your fancy-AND DON'T TALK ABOUT YOUR KIDS! This night you're no longer mum & dad, but the people you used to be before children.
My parents used to go on at least 2 weekend aways alone together a year, and when i was younger i was annoyed i wasn't allowed on the holiday, but I now know why they did it. Just 2 adults doing adult things.
3. Tell them you love them at least once a day-the most important and often most overlooked part! End your phone calls with I love you, write a note and put it in their jacket or lunch-be inventive! Even you're absolutely exhausted at the end of the day-go to bed at the same time at least once a week and fall asleep in each others arms, or cuddling into each other - whatever makes you comfortable - and make sure you kiss each other goodnight
My partner and I made the promise that we wouldn't forget ourselves when our baby came along and we've stuck to it-I feel it makes our relationship better, and it definitely makes us better parents!
(August 2006) (
