We have a 13 year old who is totally out of hand,he has no respect for anyone and gets into trouble by smashing windows and burning out cars tried to get help off the social workers still waiting for them to come back.

When our daughter was 13, she was hell on wheels, runing away staying out all night, we had had enough and as a last resort, we involved Childrens Aid! we signed an open end custody  order, and away she went! after a couple of days she called wanting to come home, but we held firm and she stayed for the 3 weeks! after that she was a changed kid, she followed our rules went to school and came home by curfew! Some people might think this cruel of me, but I had 3 other children to think of and she was disrupting all of our lives. she soon realized what she had at home was not such a bad thing. I do not know if this will work for you, but for our daughter it was like a miracle.