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KNOWING WHEN TO TAKE A STEP BACK AND LET YOUR TEEN MAKE THIER OWN WAY IN THE WORKFORCE |
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by sandra106  (August 15th) (rank 273rd) |
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My son recently completed a 4 year apprentiship as a boilermaker on the day he finished he resigned with no job lined up to go to. My husband was so stressed about this he couldn't understand times have changed and it is not like it was in his day when
you never resigned form your job unless you had another one in place. My son in the last 6 months was so unhappy where he was but didn't want to dissapoint us by quiting. He was missing days at work getting the flu on and off and migraines but he stayed probably 6 months longer than he should have. The day he quit I was so happy to see the happiness in his eyes his personality was like it used to be it was instant he just kept smiling. He kept telling his dad don't worry I will be fine I just need a break. He had 5 weeks just doing whatever he wanted and then found employment with a new firm, while he was much happier there and his whole attitude changed he was made redundant because of contracts lost. Once again we were worried but he said to us I am glad it happened because that is not what I want to be doing for the rest of my life. His dad actually surprised me I thought here come all the lectures again about how you didn't quit your job back in his day but he actually said you will find what you want to do in life I have no doubts about that there was no I think you should do this job or that job.
He then found another job doing something completely different and is going to enroll in a tafe course as a fitness instructor he is finally starting to do what he really wants to do and not what he thinks everyone else expects him to do. I'm sure he will have may more jobs before he finds what he really wants to do I can actually say we don't stress about it anymore.
My advice is
1. Intially guide your child on job prospects and give them advice along the way.
2. Learn to take a step back and realise they have to make their own decisions about job choice it might not be what you expected but it is not your choice to make.
3.Remember times have change since you first statred in the workforce and young people today don't stay in the same job for several years.
4. Listen to what they have to say about their choices and not what you want to hear.
5. They also have to be interested and motivated in the job they do it is no good being miserable and turning up day after day thinking the situation is never going to change and only staying there because they think it is what they are supposed to do.
6. Encourage them to do whatever it is they want to do and give them advice when they ask for it.
