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Words

by sonk

(September 9th) (rank 102nd)

I have come to realize in live that our words can either make or unmake people. Unkind words have a way of shaping our children's future. We as parents have to always say positive things to our kids and encourage them. For example instead of saying you naughty boy or

girl you can say to them you are a good and wonderful child but what you did was wrong. We have to let them know the consequences of doing something wrong in a loving way. We also have to listen to our kids no matter how old they are. Find time for each child and sit down and talk about things bothering them and life in general. As parents no matter how frustrated we are we should do our best to always think about what we are about to say to our kids. If a kid always hears that he/she would amount to nothing they will grow up with an inferiority complex. It would also affect them for the rest of their lives. Lets make the world a better place by being kind and loving not only to our kids but to our neighbours. Thank you

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	October 12th \| Izzy

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I agree. Labeling the action as naughty is a lot better than labeling the kid as naughty. None of us are perfect, and though we'd like to think that we're good people, our actions aren't always consistent to the fact.

I also think that spelling out what we're phrasing our children for is a good thing. Instead of saying, you're so good, it's better to say, "I really appreciate that you listened well today when I asked you to do (or not do) something."

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	November 5th \| sonk

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Many thanks Izzy. And I do agree with what you said in your second part of your comment.

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	September 17th \| KirstieA

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I don't agree that we should always give are children positive praising as this may lead to them having unrealalistic expectations of themselves and may lead to them thinking they are better than everyone else because mummy tells me that I am good or wonderful everytime I do something I shouldn't do. When my son does something wrong I tell him to stop and explain the reason why I don't want him doing it. I do not give any praise until he has moved on and then I say good listening.

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	September 17th \| llmunchkin

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I think that the author is trying to explain that it is not the action, not the child that is inappropriate; therefore do not label the child and say they are naughty, reinforce the fact that you love them and they are good; yet confirm that particular actions and behaviours are bad, negative or unacceptable etc. It is always better to focus on positive behaviours & actions whenever possible anyway, as this increases with more praise & also improves self esteem for a child of any age.

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	November 5th \| sonk

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Dear llmunchkin, thank you for your comment. That was great

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	September 18th \| KirstieA

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Thanks llmunchkin for clarifying what the author meant I was not sure.

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	September 18th \| llmunchkin

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Well I read it a few times out loud & I think that is the correct interpretation... It is the one I like anyway LOL : )

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	November 5th \| sonk

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KirstieA dear, sorry about that. When a child does something wrong as parents we need to correct them so that they do not repeat it again. What I wanted to put across was to do the explaining for the reason why they should not do that in a kind and loving way instead of labelling them as bad, naughty, good for nothing or worse. Thank you

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