Spur of the moment un-planned sexual encounters with your partner are also great fun. If an opportunity presents, and both of you are able to make the leap....this can bring a bit of fun and the naughtiness to your relationship.

My lady and I from time to time might find a bit of time where the kids are not about, and often in these moments tend to get a little closer than our kids will normally allow. One such example, the kids were at friends places doing what kids of the age 13,16,17 do with their mates....My lady and I went to town and grabbed a coffee and a bite to eat...on the way home the conversation got a little romantic, and as soon as we got home we made for the lounge room and had a great time.

About 10 minutes after we finished the doorbell rang and our kids began arriving from their friends homes. We felt sexy, happy and a little naughty, but I tell ya, it works wonders.

Spontaneity is the key here.....grab the opportunity (or your loving partner) by the ears and go for it.....you won't regret it!

Keep it fresh, spontaneous and naughty.....just like you did when you were younger and trying to get your little slice of fun when your parents were about.....Remember how that felt? Yup..just as exciting and fun as it does now, when you manage to get a little quickie in while your kids are occupied!

In think sex is a very important part of a relationship; or at least a lot of close intimacy.  When this breaks down because of either partner losing interest it can often be a symptom of other things in the relationship needing to be addressed.  For women, it is often self esteem issues, or just being plain tired from running around after kids all day; which a rather unsexy way to live.  So getting out and about is a must, as well as having some nice underwear and clothes that make you feel good and give you confidence.  If a man wants more from he his woman he should facilitate that by helping out with the housework, (men look sexy doing dishes; especially in their underwear), bathing the kids and putting them to bed in the evening and whatever else you can do to give your woman free time.

Men often get over tired and over stressed at work when children are introduced to the family; especially if they are sole income earner.  It must be horrible having to come home and help out with kids and chores as well as hear all about your lady's boring day... However it is only a moment in time & the more you help each other out, the more time you will have to relax together and de-stress.  Often a woman sees lack of interest in sex from a man as a sign that he is getting it elsewhere... Most guys I know just lose interest when they are feeling stressed, trapped & over tired.

So if you want to keep sex alive; help each other out with 'must do tasks', talk a lot about what is bothering you, be kind to each other, be complimentary to each other & be a team who know they have each other's backs in every situation. 

sex is a very important thing in a relationship. its a way for a couple to show their love and affection.

after children they both need to take time out and show each other love and affection. if there is a ratty kid that always wants in mum and dads bed, Get a lock on the door. explain tot he child mum and dad need time together.

In my opinion, not having sex with your partner is a symptom of a relationship problem, not the actual problem itself. No relationship breaks up when both parntners are feeling fulfilled in all other aspects of their relationship, and they are too tired or busy (or their toddler keeps creeping into their bed!) to have sex.

"Oh, sorry honey, I love you, and enjoy your company, but we haven't had sex in a couple months, since we have a 2 year old who won't sleep in their own bed, so I think it's time for a divorce." I really doubt that those words have ever been spoken.

Women do need to feel sexy, but we also need to feel loved, and especially feel apreciated. A dinner alone, a nightly walk after supper, or even just cuddling on the couch watching tv is enough to keep the intimacy in a relationship, when having sex just isn't in the cards.

Yes, sex is important, but its not the end all be all to a healthy relationship.