Some of the things parrents cannot control or comprehend is their child's unseen manifestation of having crushes among their schoolmates and teachers. This kind of crisis development baffles fathers and mothers on how to express themselves to their sons and daughters whom have already revealed their big secrets to their

close friends.

First of all, having crushes or developing infatutation is normal; the sight of having to see handsome boys donning their unique and sleek hairstyle or girls with slender bodies and long, jet black hair made our hearts pump when were younger. How, as parents can we address this kind of problem: we did encounter such embarrassing moments wherein we would scamper back to our classrooms to avoid the 'apple of our eyes.'

We have a new generation of kids who express their admiration in a very different level than before. Although infatuation has been coined as a minor degree of intimate respect to the opposite or same sex for that matter, it is a positive sign that our kids are maturing beyond their own knowledge. Infatuation is not a childish game of K-I-S-S-I-N-G, our children have the right to know about their individual feelings towards one person and encourage them to go for it.

How do we, as parents, do that? Here are some possible tips:

1. Make two delicious lunches - Telling your son/daughter about infatuation in a quirky way helps. And what better way to be quirky is to cook your specialty and offer it to the guy/gal your child has fallen in love with. They could string together hearty and non-sensual relationships while snacking on some delicious goodies. Better add the dessert on that, too.

2. Don't be obvious - Tip your kid drop the obnoxious behaviour. Letting them know that falling in love is good but, having others know, espescially the ones they like, is a bad idea. Keep them under taciturn mode and emotionally stable. In this way, having to ignore such pleasures may help him/her develop stronger bonds with other people without having to worry about issues about sweaty palms and talking in gibberish.

3. Dare them to date - Dating is not a parent's nightmare, in fact, this establishes healthy relationships with other people we "truly" like. If your son has mustered enough courage to ask that pretty girl-next-door then why not? For girls, have them accompanied by a chaperone in order to moderate recreational activities.

Keeping up with today's generation of teens is not that hard if you apply the right strategies. Be with them always and you'll find boundless tricks on how to give them the right advise about having crushes

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Debra Tucci is a BS Psychology graduate who has written timeless unpublished term papers about parental control and sociological relationships between the teens of today and the teens of yesterday.