Parenting can be very challenging! Especially if your kid is troubled behaviorally. Many parents want to change their child's behavior and ended up frustrated due to the lack of results. It's very important to understand that we cannot change our kid’s behavior until we are able to teach them
the skills they need to be accountable for their behaviors.
Here are 10 simple tips that i have gathered from the total transformation program that i would like to share with you today.
Hopefully you will find it less stressful whenever your child is getting on your nerves.
1) Use direct statements
You need to be firm, clear and direct when you are dealing with a child’s bad behavior. Do not give rooms for negotiation. This will only give a child leeway for future misbehaviors.
2) Stop the show
If you find that your child is misbehaving badly or exhibiting tantrums say in a public place, then stop whatever programs that you’ve planned and go home. I know this can be tough, especially when you have already planned for the day. But if your child is misbehaving, he needs to know that there isn’t any “exciting” activity for the rest of the day unless he stops his bad behavior.
3) Use consequences to get honesty
Take lying for example. If you child is lying then you need to set some consequences for the action. Ignoring it will only show your child that it's ok to lie.
4) Be clear about your values
Communicate to your kids about your family values. It's always easy for a child to understand values, if this is ingrain into them at an early age. Start early. If your child has grown pass his toddler years, don’t give up. It's still not too late. A child will learn by observing you. Do not just talk about value, show them how you embraced those values as well.
5) Identify Thinking Errors and Excuses
How many times has your child come up with excuses to justify his bad behavior?
Don’t argue over those excuses. Focus on the processes of their excuse, NOT their excuses!
6) Use Single-Issue Focus
Keep focus on the issue. Always address unrelated subjects at a later time.
7) Cueing
This is the single most effective method that I have used on my kids. Try to establish non verbal cue between you and your child. This can be very helpful is you are in a public place and a stare at him and communicate the message that he is in trouble if he continues misbehaving.
8) Use strategic recognition and affection
Give your kid credit when he does something right. Let him know that you recognize his efforts.
9) Give basic direction
I know this sounds simple. But sometimes we parents forget that our kids are still kids and that they need basic instructions for certain tasks. Give them a head start and then show them how to do things.
10) Demand and expect compliance
Parents need to know why their kid has to comply. Compliance is not submission without an understanding of why. Every parent has to understand why they want their kid to comply. Is it just out of anger? Or you want your kid to learn certain truths.
Time for a disclaimer :)
The above 10 tips are purely based on my own interpretation and in no way represent the detailed information found in the total transformation program. There are of course more than just 10 tips. I hope you'll find the above tips useful to begin with though.
About the Author:
Thisadvice is provided by Judy Hansen of Child-Central.com. She is a mother of 2 young kids and a homeschooling enthusiast. She is also an advocate for right-brain development for babies through the use of Flash Cards.
(October 26th) (
