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  2.73 (Worth a try) from 10 votes (187 Visits) |
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Honesty is the best policy |
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by weeokwan  (August 2006) (rank 500+) |
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I have been in the very same boat. and used to HIDE during certain times of day just so I didn't have to run into her. Her child bit mine in the face and just missed her eye. After so many agonizing days, I waited for
the inevitable question and spoke honestly that the children did not behave for me. And that our children did not get along at all. At first she was miffed, but she finally came around and we talk on the phone now, instead of any play dates or babysittting. Keep in mind though, I had a friendship with this lady, so I was kind of certain that she would n't take it as a complaint against her or her children. I don't know if you are in the same boat.
But really, how much more terrorizing are you going to put yourself and your children through. They obviosly hate going there and the issue of bully ing at school. Jeesh you have your hands full.
I have just moved to a new town near one of my best friends from high school who I haven't seen for about 3 years. She has kids the same age as mine and they've always written to each other and been friends. Last school holidays (about a week after we got here) she asked me to look after her kids during the day while she worked (I'm studying at the moment and so have holidays off). Her kids were monsters - her boy climbed in and out of windows and all over the car and broke many toys, one girl was mean to my daughter if she didn't get her own way and the oldest whined constantly and stole a whole box of tampons (which I didn't find out until they were needed of course!). Now her daughter who is in the same class as mine at school has been bullying my daughter at school. With the holidays coming up I'm scared she'll ask me to babysit. How do I say no nicely? I still want to be friends with her but I don't neccessarily want my children hanging out with hers - especially all holidays.
