Mature age mums

All mums have something in common... They are mums..... I am sure the younger mums, can give new tips to the mature ones and the mature ones can give old tips that have been forgotten over the years but still work.. I found this with my mum.... I get tips from my friends my age who have some good tips they used on their kids (who are just a bit older then mine) but I also found that all though my mum's tips were a bit out dated they worked really well.....   It comes back down to sorting out the good advice from the not so good advice.. New or old either way something has to work... .   All babies are different, so sometimes old tricks work better then new ones, and visa versa, and sometimes you just have to invent your own...

As for mixing your older kids with their younger cousins....  I have at least 10 cousins all under the age of 10.... My sister of course sees them more then I do and she is 27... And they don't really want to mix with here they are more content playing wtih each other at family gatherings..   And maybe your daughter could offer to baby sit... I don't really have any advice on that other then if they want to mix they will.... Kids have a mind of their own as to who they want to play with... My step daughter is 10 years old, and my her brother is 15 months... She loves playing with him, she won't change a diaper, infact she won't help unless I ask.. But play with him or look after him while I nick off to the loo she'll do that in a second flat.. BUT... When her cousins who are around the same age come over well of course she will play with them.. The often all play together but I find that the older kids can be a bit rough.... And my son comes up with a few bruses after playing with them.. This does not seem to bother him to much.. There I go rabbiting on..

Basically what I am trying to say is if they want to mix they will.. Family gatherings are always a great way to get cousins together......

When our daughters were 9, 10, and 13 i became pregant with our son at that time I was 41! What came naturally with the girls came with our son as well and not only that there were extra eager hands wanting to help! Years between kids doesn't diminish your ability to change a diaper, feed a baby cuddle,and be a loving parent! What you have in common with younger moms is your children! just because you are an older mom does that mean that your kids cannot still play with their peers? I have been asked to many times to count if I am my sons grandma. He is the one who usually answers with a laugh and no thats my Mom! Remember everyone is different, and where some people may think that 35 is to old, there are lots of women older who are having babies and loving every minute of it! As to your being a great aunt that comes naturally as does interaction among cousins! it is what it is!

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The older children will want to hold bub and play soon they will probably get along great just give them time and opportunity. Children are children no matter what year it is the world has always had crime and nappies I think no matter what style of parenting you have or what age you are  bub will be just fine with Love and a great mum.

They where in their late 30's.  I think the baby part was not an issue.  They are all now teenagers and are running amuck.

Luckily 1 out of 3 is still at home and going to a private school because they feel that it is the other children that sway their children.

It is the parents that are not commuicating with their children.

She has to remember that when she is 70 she only then man be about to let go of the purse strings.  Hey I had my second and last at 34 and I now wish I started earlier.  Even though I'm active I don't think that in another 10 years I can keep up with 20 somthings.

All the best with bub and it sounds like plenty of baby sitters will be at hand.

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My sister is 45 her husband is 37 and her daughters are 28 and 25 and yes she is about to take motherhood on once again, she is freaking but excited at the same time.  Whats the difference between a young new mum and an old new mum, I know that my sister has more knowledge now than I did when I had my first.  As for people calling her the grandma, well does it really matter all she has to do is so no Im the mummy and be proud of it.  I dont understand why you would need advice on been a good aunty doesn't that just come naturally.  I come from a huge family Im 35 my eldest niece is 28 and my youngest nephew is 5, all up there is 15,  we all blend together, we all have fun, the older kids help look after their younger cousins.    So stop worrying Im sure your sister will be a fantastic mum whatever her age may be.