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Responsible Role Models - Food Child Abuse

Anonymous Author (August 2010)

When I hear parents say things like, ‘my child will only eat chips or chicken nuggets,’ I am dismayed to think that their child has access to such rubbish daily. I am equally distressed when parents insist that their child will not eat healthier food choices like fruit

and vegetables etc. In my experience, most children eat when they are hungry and it is parent's who choose what is available, not babies, toddlers and kids.  Parents also decide what to consume in front of their children; where to take them to dine and what groceries to allow into our homes.  If you want your child to get the maximum out of every aspect of their life, be a strong healthy role model and ensure that your child has access to a healthy diet every day.  Educate your child to understand the benefits of eating correctly and the detriment of eating junk food.                                                        

Too many parents fail miserably when it comes to providing their children with a healthy, nutritionally balanced diet.  I am constantly shocked and disgusted when I shop at the supermarket and see the amount of flavoured sodas, potato chips, starchy sugary white breads and processed frozen foods in people’s trolleys.  Even driving past fast food outlets and seeing people inside with their children makes me feel nauseous, (you may as well feed your kid the cardboard box their meal comes in; just add copious amounts of sugar, fat and salt).  Junk food and fast food are not cheaper options than fruit and vegetables; especially when you to add the extra medical and dental bills for health issues associated with poor dietary decisions.  Cakes, sweets and such 'party' foods aren't really necessary, however if your child has them on rare occasions, they will appreciate them more anyway.

Regardless of how many media articles feature the consequences of consuming excess sugars, fat and additives, people see fit to have their fill of these empty artery hardening calories.  They make up excuses that are not remotely plausible and many of them blame external influences for their choices.  It is one thing to deny yourself an adequately nutritional diet, however to role model such disgraceful eating habits to your child is worse.  It is arguably criminal, (yes, some countries are considering legislation regarding obesity etc) to continually provide junk food to your children.  Our kids are not garbage compactors, they are little people who have living cells, arteries, muscles, bones and brains that require nutritious fuel to enable them to reach their full potential physically and mentally.

In an article I wrote called Global Guardians - Protecting All Children a while ago, I summarised some of my basic ideas on child negligence.  “Neglect:  This can be the failure to provide basic necessities, for example: Adequate care; safe environment, appropriate shelter, nutritional food, educational opportunities medical care, and emotional support, are some examples.  It also includes failure to leave a child in the supervision of safe adults, and abandonment.”

It is not only neglectful of parents to make the choices that lead to this disease amongst children; it is abusive and child protection agencies are beginning to recognise it as such.  Even if your child does not look fat, if you are constantly letting them eat fatty, sugary processed foods, they aren't going to be in the peak of health.  No child would choose to be over weight, ridiculed, weak, sleepy, hyper-active, diabetic, die young or any of the other side effects of malnutrition from a diet of junky fat and sugary food and drinks.  How could a parent who claims to love their child make that choice for them and get away with it?  Governments should not have to make legislation, or foot the bill for the medical strain poor parenting decisions have on the health of our population.  It is up to parents, guardians and other role models in our children’s lives to step and be accountable for the ongoing health and happiness of ours and future generations.  

© 2010 Luisa Foliaki – Proud Mumma of MicroMe & MissyMe

Further reading on this topic:

Nutrition and The Brain - Neuroscience For Kids

Child Obesity and Abuse - AMA Doctors4Health

Wallet vs Waist:  Fast-food Cost Per Calorie - MSN SmartMoney

Obesity and Related Illnesses - Free Online Health

 

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leigh3348
July 2011 | leigh3348
Re: Responsible Role Models - Food Child Abuse

I enjoyed the article and feel the same when I see my children's friends and peers eating these processed foods.  I do not buy processed foods and make meal for my family at home from scratch every day.  I have never had a problem with my children eating healthy food as that is all they have on offer in our home.  We have not denied sugary foods for parties but that is the only occasion that they are offered and we provide healthy alternatives as well.  My children are rarely ill and have never had dental problems, the oldest is 11 and goes to the dentist every 6 months for checkups.  I have found it very difficult to have my children's friends over for sleepovers as they turn their nose up at the food on offer, but we have found ways to make good food hide in what seems to be processed, and it has worked to some extent.  Fussy children is an excuse not to parent, a toddler will eventually eat when they are hungry and the only thing on offer is fruit and veg, I have never found any child will starve rather than eat whats on offer.

Thankyou for your article as it helps me to feel that I am doing the right thing by my children when I say 'No'.



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josierm
April 2011 | josierm
Re: Responsible Role Models - Food Child Abuse
i totally agree. although from my experience, parents who feed their kids junk, are also feeding themselves junk and don't have the knowledge to allow for healthy choices. its a very sad thing, and I feel when poor food choices are inflicted on children that this is a form of child abuse. we have this little girl in my sons soccer club. she is obese and can barely run. she is left behind and isnt invoved in the game because she is so unfit and her body prevents her from keeping up with other kids her age. its so sad to watch because i know these childhood experience will shape her personality and her future. as always, excellent article!


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      llmunchkin
August 2010 | llmunchkin
Re: Responsible Role Models - Food Child Abuse

The same principles apply to alcohol and smoking as well; that is exactly the kind of message I was trying to convey.  People are more likely to speak out against things like that than food though.  Not all adults drink and smoke, however we all eat, so it is vital to set a good example and do the right thing by our kids.  Thanks for adding your feedback, I appreciate it.



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Juzzy
August 2010 | Juzzy
Re: Responsible Role Models - Food Child Abuse

Great article Lui,

My kids were brought up without junk food in the house. Josh was a solid baby so it was always thought that his diet was bad. Once he started walking the weight fell off.

We can't have any junk food in the house as Josh has many allergies most of them being stuff that is in junk food. I am constantly shocked about what some kids have in their lunch boxes at Josh kinder. The other day the kinder teacher had to speak to the parents about the fact that coke is not allowed in childrens drink bottles, i nearly fell over.

once again great article

xoxoxox



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blue-raven
August 2010 | blue-raven
Re: Responsible Role Models - Food Child Abuse

I totally agree even though we do have junk food once a week (usually). Junk food should be a treat not every day foods.

Watching some of the shows ( jamie Olivers school dinners are among a few I've seen) which shows this exact issue. In Jamies show parents were buying maccas and giving to the kids at lunch time rather then make them eat the healthy food Jamie was preparing, it was sickening.

I'm lucky my kids love healthy foods all though Lachie has developed an obession with maccas, so we won't be buying it for a while till he gets over it.

Excellent article!

Raven



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      llmunchkin
August 2010 | llmunchkin
Re: Responsible Role Models - Food Child Abuse

I caught about 15mins of Jamie's show the other night... He has an uphill battle, however it is well worth the effort :)  Aren't those parents aware that diabetes is a life time disease and shooting up insulin daily is no fun, neither is kidney failure or blindness.

Keep at it, Jaydee has little obsessions here and there, however they get over them fairly quickly.  Get Lachie to have a closer look at regular Maccas clientelle and some of his sporting role models to compare physiques.

One good tip that Stephen insists upon is that lollies, chips, ice-cream and all that are not 'treats'.  They are sometimes foods that you get occasionally if you always eat your healthy food.  If you eat them too much, you will get sick.  Treats are, picking which healthy meal or snack you wish to have and outings to the park of your choice or a family bike ride etc.  Try slowly changing your kids perspective on this it isn't really that hard and it means they keep an eye on us parents as well ;)



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boredmum
August 2010 | boredmum
Re: Responsible Role Models - Food Child Abuse

 Excellent article as always Lui.. Both my kids will choose vegies & fruit over junk food any day.. They laugh at lexi in IGA..she was crying when we were leaving & one old lady said oh buy her a lollipop, the guy at the checkout said its not a lollipop she wants, she didnt get her apple!! it was an apple she was crying for..silly mummy forgot because we had lots at home but thats her treat for being good while shopping.(they seem to find it funny a kid doesnt want junk??)

 We do eat crap occasionally but not very often.. Brad could of had anything for his b'day dinner macca's,. fish n chips etc but chose chicken on a skewer & rice!!

I make my own nuggets, southern fried chicken(its baked though & tastes way better!!) Brad loves them but lexi would prefer raw vegies 



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      llmunchkin
August 2010 | llmunchkin
Re: Responsible Role Models - Food Child Abuse

Oh poor Lexi missing out on her apple... That is so precious; how about that lady saying to give her a lollipop?!?  It would be a real pain in the butt to have kids that cried in expectation of lollies all the time.  You must be very proud of Brad's food choices as well, kids love food on a stick don't they :)

My main problem is that we go out to places with the kids where there aren't any healthy food options, so I need to remember to pack their lunch boxes in case we get caught out.  Yesterday we took Jaydee and Lola to a private screening of Karate Kid in Orange and I forgot them.  I ended up getting Jaydee some plain chips as we were hanging around longer than expected and that was about the healthiest thing they had >:(



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simplyme01ca
August 2010 | simplyme01ca
Re: Responsible Role Models - Food Child Abuse

If you only have good nutritional food at home to offer your kids then that is what they will eat...when Ari is told at the grocery store she can have a treat she will head right for the fruit.  She knows the answer to anything we consider junk is no, she won't even ask for it.  Sometimes she will pick up a head of broccolli to munch on, why, because she loves her veggies and really loves the green one (she says this herself).  Its the same with our little boy, we offer only good-for-snacks and home made meals 99% of the time...so that is what he is used to now as well and he is learning his likes and dislikes...we do not offer any chips, soft drinks or candy...so they don't expect or want it.

Its all about what yoy teach to your kids, healthy eating habits and what you offer them to eat.  If you don't offer the junk, they won't want it and won't miss it!  We don't deny Ari anymore we let her make the choice and she doesn't even look at the junk food...so something stuck.

LOL...would like for you to check out my grocery cart, don't give me a hard time about the little bit of chocolate okay...its mine and I don't share!  (ha ha ha)!



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      llmunchkin
August 2010 | llmunchkin
Re: Responsible Role Models - Food Child Abuse

Well Ari is a very smart little girl as we all know, I am sure she and Jaydee would enjoy a great meal and conversation together :)  Strawberries are better than lollies and whenever they don't cost a fortune, we have tons of them in the house.  Lucky for me, Jaydee knows they are my favourite and he saves me the last one, (often the smallest and squishiest, however it's the thought that counts).

It is great to teach your kids about healthy eating habits as it reminds us to ensure we role model them as well.  When we go into the service station to pay, Jaydee often says, "no wonder you don't get me anything here, it's all junk food."  He points out lollies etc at the grocery store and before I can admonish him, he'll quickly tell me, "I am not going to ask for these things, I am just showing you how many there are..."

Well everyone knows I am a bit anal about chocolate and it's origins, if it is fair trade, then I encourage you to give yourself a sneaky tidbit now and then, everyone deserves a little something special to perk them up.  Jaydee's favourite desert is frozen yogurt at the moment; he thinks they are 'ice blocks'.

 



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zoolooau
August 2010 | zoolooau
Re: Responsible Role Models - Food Child Abuse

Its so true!

I admit they do have fast food but no often and when they do its usually the chicken treat, roast chicken variety which is better then most. I wont eat maccas it makes me sick just looking at it. I swair that one time i went there (with friends) i had some nuggets.... the next week i was craving them!!!!!! They must put something in them!!!! gross >.<

I made our own chicken nuggets the other day, they taisted sooo good!!!! Well a bit bland but great for kiddies, next time mite put a little bit of flavour for us adults. But it was lovely chicken breast with breadcrumbs... how it SHOULD be!!!!! And we had salad with it ;) Going to do fish fingers next time! yummy!

I have watched on t.v when the kids will ONLY eat sweets..... Poor kids, why did they get the choise when they were a baby? the 1st things my kids got were vegies!!! No custed, no fruit (till later) no crap >.< They are spoilt by family members now but I dont mind cause they eat healthy stuff so well.

Amber thought for a while she mite be able to get away with not eating so she could just eat snacks but i jsut fed er which ever meal she didnt eat when she said she was hungry next. Its NOT hard!!!! 2 second tantrum now will save HUGE ones later on!!!!



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      llmunchkin
August 2010 | llmunchkin
Re: Responsible Role Models - Food Child Abuse

Ditto Lou, kids are really smart and they learn to eat what they are given very quickly.  I understand that some parents are unfortunate and have children with real eating issues, (medically diagnosed), however for the average parent, it is a matter of consistently providing healthy food choices.

Good on you for making those chicken nuggets, I am sure you can add a little flavour easily enough to make them less bland :)  Home made fish fingers are bound to be nicer too.  Your kids will thank you for it in the future I am sure!

I used to be so embarrassed when I had friends over because we'd have a sand which or go out to the garden to pick some peas in the pod or carrots for carrot sticks for snacks.  When I went to their houses I had chocolate cookies and milk... When I left home I bought cookies and take away for about a week and then I realised that I didn't really like these things and they made me feel sick.  So thanks Mum and Dad for a miserable childhood raiding the garden to eat such a variety of vegetables, berries and fruit :) 

PS - Yes, it was me who tossed my dinner over the neighbours fence and in the compost heap when the dog wouldn't eat it and sat staring at my plate for hours when I couldn't get away with that.  Thank goodness my 'evil mother' persevered when even my Dad gave up on me.



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mango-mummy
August 2010 | mango-mummy
Re: Responsible Role Models - Food Child Abuse

Great article!

I also dont understand how ppl can say kids wont eat vegies :O Vegies are awesome! they are bright they are more colourful then lollies! my kids favourits snacks are carrot sticks and celery sticks (miss bug has a habbit of stealing the whole celery after shopping and running into her room and munchig on it- and has once stolen a capsicum from wollies and eaten it whole while i shopped!!)

Take aways are good for a treat, when your feeling lazy n cant be bothered, but not every night, Im guilty of buying nuggets and fish fingers (i bought them a fortnight ago and they havent even been opened) but theres nothing better then a healthy meal with meat vegies and mashy tatoe !!!! It even makes you feel better when your run down



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      llmunchkin
August 2010 | llmunchkin
Re: Responsible Role Models - Food Child Abuse

Kudos to you Raz, in fact your article last night about toddlers making meals fun etc gave me the kick in the butt I needed to write about this topic that plays on my mind constantly.  Last night we picked up some stuff for dinner, (I posted it on your comments for Veejay actually, I must link to your article).  I felt a tad guilty as were were about an hour from home and Jaydee was hungry and thirsty so I bought him some rice crackers and Stephen said he could have his water...

I rocked up to the checkout counter and was disgusted by the contents of the trolleys ahead of me in the line.  I often feel this way and I have had quick chats with other parents when I am shopping who agree.  I didn't even need to look up to know the people with them were going to look unhealthy and have equally unhealthy looking children.  I got glares when I commented on how disgusting their food choices were and I didn't care in the least, they should be ashamed and having a world full of healthy children is worth it.



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