Need a man (but not a tyrant)

Look I am sorry but who are you kidding.  This may sound old fashioned but drugs should not be part of a family situation.  Want your child to grow up thinking it is Ok to take drugs when the going gets a little uncomfortable?  This man of yours will not be able to adjust and become a better person whilst he puts drugs, alcohol and mates first.  Wrong Wrong Wrong.  Should be children and family first, mates after and forget about the rest. Sure talk to him (give him a chance), explain that you cannot go on living like this.  Do this when you already have your safe escape plan in place with plenty of available support.  Make sure you have someone else in the house at the same time and make sure that you will not be putting yourself or child in danger.  If for any reason you beleive that you will be in danger then get out first safely before you speak to him!   If you are not sure how to start your escape and feel you don't have any friends or family that you can trust, then start by ringing a crisis line of some kind or go see your family doctor and ask him to put you in touch with some one who can help.  This man is behaving in a most unresponsible way, from what you say he sounds too unpredictable to be around a child.  I have seen this so many times.  Don't throw your life away for the sake of love, put your child first!  Yes I know children need Fathers, but not the kind that ruin their life (or worse).   Please keep us posted on what you do and what ever decision you end up making, good luck.