lying

My 15 year old son. Has a huge lying problem. I have tried everything that I can think of to let him know that he is heading in the wrong direction. He just doesn't seem to care and has no respect for anyone.

What exactly is he

lying about? Everything small things, is he stealing as well? Now isthe time when peer pressure really kicks in and young boys will act out to be cool hang with their friends, and disregard anything and everthing that their parents tell them. Have you seen a change in his attitude? Do you suspect that he is doing drugs or drinking? these are things that every parent will say "My kid would never do that!" The problem is that when different behaviour arises we want to blame it on everything but our kids and their real problems. So keep talking, ask him what the problem is! Does he have a girlfriend? This is another peer pressure problem. Did he have a girlfriend and recently lost her? Go back and retrace when you think the problem started! If you can find a key point when he dtarted lying to yu than you should be able to find out the reason why. If this dosen't work than perhaps a  counsellor is the answer. If this still gets you know where, than perhaps it is time for you to pull out the big guns, and let him know that his behaviour is unacceptable and disruptive to the entire household and you can no longer deal with it. If you still get the "whatever" from him then Explain to him that you have no other choice but to send him somewhere that can better deal with his particular problems since he no longer will open up to you. Does he want to quit school at 16,  you must convince him not to. If he is of the mindset to quit then force him out to get a job. If he refuses tell him you are not a charitable organization and that everyone must pull their weight. His job is school. If he still refuses, than cut him off everything, no tv, no phone, no computer, no allowance, no video games,  nothing.  I wrote an answer before and I stated that when my oldest daughter got out of control, we signed her off to children's aid for 2 weeks after 2 days she called crying wanting to come home but we held firm and made her stay the 2 weeks. She came home a changed girl and we had very few problems after that. I will say again sometimes "tough love" can be the toughest thing you never thought you would have to do as a parent. Please remember though that different things work for different people and this is only advice it is not written in stone, but it is what worked for us. I hope you do not have to use such drastic measures, and your son comes around soon. Be strong, from a Mom who's been there.