Changing or explaining your tone of voice....

Have you ever noticed when you speak to your children how a different tone of voice could make all the difference in how they react?

  It can also mean the difference in how they see their parents when talking to each other.

  As my husband

 So when ever her father and I are upset with each other (which thankfully is very rare), or even just explaining the day, I always watch her face if she is there, to see what her reaction is to our conversation as she does not understand English very well, she can read into things wrong. If by chance she is there, and our tone of voice is not extremely pleasant we take the time to explain the situation so that she understands that the conversation is not going to end up with one of us walking out of the house never to return.  

 And if it so happens that hubby and I are not happy with each other (and she just happens to walk in on the conversation), and we can’t explain it to her exactly as it is, we just explain that it is ok we are just discussing yadda, yadda,yadda, and we explain that we love each other very much we just need to sort out what ever it is.

  My advice is if your kids walk into a room and you are having a discussion that is a either a little heated, or just your tone of voice is not pleasant, either change your tone of voice, change the topic, or explain to your children what is going on. I find that explaining the situation where possible is always best for us. I would hate to think that my step daughter would be upset with the thought that I am going to leave her father and have to go through that situation again.