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What we say about other people |
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by MumKim  (September 2006) (rank 14th) |
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There is a saying I first heard a few years ago
“ What you say about me says more about you than it does about me”.
It took me a while to really understand what it meant.
I was in an unhappy marriage and was
constantly complaining about what my husband had or hadn’t done. What did that say about me?
That I was an unhappy person who whined about things but did nothing to change them. It also could be taken that I was disloyal and did not respect my husband as a person.
Have you ever heard someone say something nasty about someone and thought “gee If she says that about Jane what does she say about me behind my back?” Or maybe you thought "what a snob!" Or "judgemental so-andso"
We all make mistakes and I hope I have learned from mine. Eventually I got the courage to leave my husband and that made us both happier.
A few years later I met someone else and we got married. Now if I don’t like something my husband has done (or hasn’t done) I tell him, not everyone else! When I do speak about my husband to other people I say positive things (he is an amazing guy so it is easy to be positive). Hopefully what that says about me is that I am a happy person who is in love with her husband.
I try (but occasionally still slip up) to make sure that I do not say negative things about other people.
Children watch and learn from how we act and what we say so this is one way in which I hope to provide a positive model to my child. I grew up hearing my mum badmouth my dad (she still does and they have been divorced for over 25 years).Trust me it's not nice.
